The room lighting is dim but there are different color lights. Flashing. There are faces, many faces around, but you can’t help but be drawn to just him. His eyes. Oh, those eyes! Locked with yours. And in that moment you just knew he was the one. And you were his one. In that moment. That moment that you first locked eyes with him…on a computer screen amongst 15 other profiles that showed up in your search. The lights flashing are ads popping up on the screen. And he’s not even locking eyes with you but the camera lense that he held up himself to take his profile picture.
Is this the romantic way that you imagine meeting your soul mate? For me, ech, no way. As a woman, I can say this seems to be the least ideal way to meet the love of your life. I used to tell myself, “There’s no way I’m meeting the love of my life online. It just isn’t going to happen that way.” And then, just a few months later I met the love of my life online and it happened just that way. Turns out many other great couples met their partners online, too, and not just the people in the commercials.
The more I apply the law of attraction and universal laws in my life, coach women and delve into creating the Deliberate Attraction program I realize more and more that dating online is an ideal way to use deliberate attraction in action. Here are a few reasons why I think it works so well:
You can learn a lot about him quickly from his profile – Being very clear on what you want in a relationship and in a partner is so important to attracting the right partner and what’s great about dating online is being able to screen a potential date’s pertinent information before investing time and energy into the connection. Where does he live? Is he looking for marriage? Does he have kids or want kids? What religion, if any, is he? If you meet in a bar you may spend a lot of time flirting, having fun, enjoy the chemistry and getting emotionally invested and never get around to asking these things until way too late. By dating online you can see if this person wants the same basic things and has the same basic values before investing your time, emotions and energy.
He can learn a lot about you quickly from your profile – Also, without spending time and energy into a relationship first, he can know if you’re right for him. Yes, I used the best glamorous, pretty snapshot I could find and said fun things and such, but also I was completely honest about wanting a serious relationship and children someday. I was even honest about being vegan and very spiritual. Yep, I don’t eat burgers and I’m kinda woo woo. Do you think that turned some men off? Uh, definitely. Are those men I would want to go out with? No. Your soul mate will be drawn to your desires, your values and who you truly are.
It’s where the men are – The chances of me meeting a potential soul mate just randomly somewhere was very, very slim given that I didn’t go out to bars, that my job as a yoga instructor (yoga also being female dominated) took me from place to place for short amounts of time, and that, at that time, I didn’t belong to a church or any clubs. Yes, I could have joined a club or went to a church but even then, the chances I would meet a single guy ready to settle down was still small. So I asked, where do the most single men that are ready for a relationship hang out? And the answer was online. For some reason they don’t seem to mind it as much as women do and even like it, go figure. I chose the site that statistically had the most men on it and that I heard from various real people had marriage success for them. Thank God I did, as I met my husband about seven weeks later right before he was about to quit the site. When you put your profile online you are telling the Universe that you are totally ready to meet your soul mate, and you are supported in achieving your desire.
Personally I believe dating online is a wonderful tool if you are deliberately attracting your soul mate. And though it may not be the most romantic at first or the answer for everyone, I know that I’m very grateful to have listened to guidance telling me to sign up when I did. I hope these three reasons help you re-frame your relationship with dating online.
Would you like some guidance while starting your online dating journey? I’d love to offer you a free 30-minute clarity session to help you do it successfully, please contact me at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com.