In the last post I wrote about the difference between the common default attraction versus deliberately attracting your soul mate. The fun part now is the process of, in Abraham-Hicks words, deliberately creating your ideal partnership. I say it’s fun because it can be like a game where you allow your imagination to roam free. Actually the better you feel and more excited you get and the more fun you have about achieving your ideal desire, the quicker the manifestation is likely to occur. Always keep in mind what Rumi said, “What you seek is seeking you.” If you’re having fun and feeling good then that will seek you, too!
Here are three questions and steps to get you started on your journey:
1) What is it that you really want in an ideal partnership?
Get precisely clear on what you want the nature of the relationship to be (like married or unmarried but living together, children or not), the type of partner you want to be with, and how you see your life together. I know there’s a popular myth out there that a woman should “just be cool” until she knows how the guy feels about her – but that is the complete opposite of being a deliberate creator. Waiting for someone to decide what he or she wants with you is not honoring the lovable and powerful person you truly are. If you apply, “What you seek is seeking you” then being anything other than who YOU are when seeking your ideal love is going to draw inauthentic, unclear or wishy-washy love back to you – and can lead to heartbreak further down the road. Be clear on what it is you truly want.
2) Why do you want your ideal partnership?
Knowing why you want something fuels the energy behind your desire. It also can tell you if what you’re asking for is in your highest interests. If your reasons for wanting to be with your ideal partner are based in love and feel good – for example, wanting to be with someone because, “I want to express love with someone every day,” then you’ll attract a partner that wants the same good feeling. If you ask why and your answer is fear-based, for example because, “I don’t want to be alone,” then you’ll also attract a partner that has the same fear based feeling. “What you seek is seeking you,” so remember that you will attract a partner that wants a relationship for the same reasons (whether you realize it or not). Also being clear on why you want your ideal relationship will further clarify what it is you want and simplify the process of dating and looking.
3) How do you want to feel when you are in your ideal partnership?
Now we’re getting down to the important stuff when it comes to being a powerful creator in our lives. It’s all about feelings. In our analytical, logical society feelings have been put on the back shelf described as being just “chick stuff,” (actually things typically thought of as masculine like sports and war are just as much about feelings) but if you truly want to receive your heart’s desire – then you must tune in to your feelings about it. Again, to be a broken Rumi record, “What you seek is seeking you,” and that is completely true when it comes to your feelings. Do you want to feel good, happy and loved in your partnership? Then if you focus on those wonderful feelings when you think about your life in your ideal relationship, then you will attract the partner that is also seeking those feelings in a relationship. If your feelings about being in a relationship are bad (mine were for quite some time years ago), then check in with yourself and ask, “What is the limiting belief that is causing me to feel this way? Am I willing to transmute this into a new belief that serves me now? What is the new belief that I’m willing to adopt to move forward with the love I truly desire?”
The more you focus on your good feelings about what it is you desire, the quicker it will come to you and the more enjoyable and authentic your results will be.
In summary, clarify – What? Why? and How? And get into those good feelings as much as possible!
I hope this was helpful for you and gives you a good starting point in manifesting your dreams. When have you manifested something wonderful in your life? As always, I’d love to read your comments below.
Lots of Love & Good Feelings,