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Can You Make a Certain Person Love You?

So you’ve got a crush, an infatuation with a particular man. Maybe you even had a relationship with him.

But, for whatever reason that only has to do with him, he doesn’t want to be with you. Can you make him change his mind?

The short answer…No. Sorry.

I wish I could tell you otherwise because that might be what you want to hear but I didn’t become a soulmate attraction coach to encourage you to contort yourself into a frenzy to get the attention of one man who probably will never love you and isn’t worthy of 1% of your love.

Did I just say that?

Yeah, I did. And I apologize if that stings.

Unfortunately, we can never control other people and what they do. But here’s what you can do…

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  1. You can use the sting of his unrequited love as inspiration for you to get very clear on what you do want in life now and find the man that does love you.

  2. You can meditate on what it is that you’re so attracted to in him. When I last had this happen in 2009 I asked myself, “What was it that I felt he gave me that I so desperately wanted?” The answer inspired me to make the big change in my life that ultimately led me to my soulmate.

  3. You can discover how you imagine you would feel in partnership with this man, why the idea of it is so appealing to you, but now focus on finding the man that really wants to you make you feel that way.

Having a broken or hurting heart can be a powerful jumping off point for going down a new path to the real soulmate relationship you are meant to be in.

This is why so many find their partner following a big heartbreak. The desire to find real love became so strong with a broken heart that the clarity for the love they wanted drew it in.

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Lots of Love,

Dina Robison

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How To Be the Beautiful Goddess That Attracts Her Soul Mate

“Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes.  It is not something physical.” ~ Sophia Loren

“When I go out now men are staring at me or engaging me in conversation!”  One of my clients said this to me after our session on embodying divine goddess energy a couple of weeks ago.  She discovered what her divine, feminine nature was and learned to merge with that energy.  As a result men are staring at her even when she goes to the store in her sweatpants and without make up.

Do you want to attract your soul mate but don’t feel beautiful enough to draw in the man that you really want?

As a woman I can honestly say that I’ve felt like this at times in the past and still struggle with this from time to time.  There probably aren’t too many women who haven’t had this feeling either at one time or ongoing.

But hey – they say that Cleopatra wasn’t a traditional beauty and didn’t look much like Elizabeth Taylor at all, but she is forever legendary for her power and goddess-like energy.  That somehow comforts me.  I read an article on the Huffington post about seven famous, and beautiful, actresses who were all told at some point in their careers that they weren’t pretty enough to make it.  Also comforting to know that beauty isn’t just about physical perfection and that it radiates from the inside out.

There are countless examples of women throughout time who weren’t perfect looking (who is really?) but are still radiantly beautiful.  They are beautiful because they are fully embodying their own goddess-like nature and are living from that energy.

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In the search for love you must learn to do the same as your ideal soul mate partner is drawn to your unique, goddess-like qualities – they are the perfect compliment to his masculine or warrior qualities (somehow saying his “God” qualities there seems inappropriate).

So how do you embody your individual goddess-like nature?

1) Write down your unique qualities both physical and non-physical.  Try not to judge what is right or wrong, an appealing quality or not.  All qualities have some benefit and a potential challenge to them – so there isn’t a good or bad.  Some examples could be:

–       Strong

–       Intelligent

–       Driven

–       Sensitive/emotional

–       Passionate

–       Athletic

–       Curvaceous

–       Lithe

–       Relaxed

–       Motivated

–       Truthful

–       Nurturing/Mothering

–       Helpful

–       Delicate

–       Innocent

And continue to list qualities that are uniquely present and important to you in your life (i.e., it helps you be successful in your career or makes you a great mom).

2) Find a symbol that reminds you of your unique energy.  This can be a picture or statue of a goddess or even a picture of a real woman, like a celebrity, that is living fully from that energy as well.  If you’re a creative type you can even draw her or write about her.  Just find someone that can be your continued inspiration.

3) When you feel you need a “beauty” boost – close your eyes, sit in meditation, and imagine invoking the energy of that woman goddess and merging with her.  If you chose Cleopatra, then literally imagine what it would be like to be living your life with her energy.  (But not her life, yikes.)  If you are preparing for a date, a job interview, a speech, a performance or anything – invoke her energy and merge with her.

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This can be a very powerful and life changing exercise to do regularly.  It has the power to change how you take care of yourself, how you eat, how you dress, how you interact with others, how you do anything.  It has the power to make you look and feel beautiful anytime.  It has the power to draw that one man to you who will absolutely adore you in all your beauty.  (Actually, it will probably draw many more to you but ideally you will just choose one.)

I hope you find this goddess invoking exercise fun and helpful.  What else do you do to embrace your own beauty?  Please comment below!

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With Love & Joy,

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6 Pieces of Popular Dating Advice to Not Take If You Want to Attract Your Soul Mate

One of the main reasons I was inspired to coach and teach women about attracting a soul mate deliberately is because after my journey – including two years of not dating, about nine months of deliberately attracting, then meeting and marrying my soul mate – I discovered that all the things that worked for me was the complete and total opposite of what mainstream dating advice (from media, articles and even well meaning friends) was suggesting to the masses.

I’ve heard just outright poor advice from well-known coaches via television, podcasts and articles and from friends and acquaintances that buy into that belief system about dating and love.  Fortunately, by the age of 35 I was connected enough to my own soul to know what was right for me in attracting the man that I would love and adore (and that would love and adore me!)

Of course, as a coach and human being, I cannot tell you or anyone else what is best for you and your soul mate in love.  When it comes to what you’re looking for in your partner, how you want to express love with your soul mate, what time is right to be intimate together, how often you see each other, how often you communicate and etc. – you have to do what is right for you at the highest level.  I certainly had my own preferences that worked perfectly for me, but you must decide what is best for you.

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However, if you intend to attract your soul mate and a relationship that is joyous and fulfilling, you should absolutely enter the relationship from day one with the end desire in mind – for you and your partnership.  That is what deliberate attraction is all about.

And these 6 pieces of dating advice that I actually heard or read at some point, well, just plain suck if you want to deliberately attract.  Here they are:

1) Just jump in. – As a coach I understand the benefit of just getting out of one’s head and taking the next step but whoa, hold on.  Are you really ready to date at this time?  Are you clear about what you want in your life and with a partner?  Are you clear of any limiting beliefs or negative patterns that will draw the wrong partner to you?  And most importantly, is your last relationship fully completed?  If any of these questions are NO, it’s crucial to take the time to figure things out before jumping in.

2) Don’t ask a guy where it’s going too soon. You can read my post about how to know where your relationship is going for more, but in a nutshell; with deliberate attraction you don’t date unless you know where you’re going and what your intention is.  That doesn’t mean every first date will potentially be the one – but that you choose your dates based on whether they have the same values as you, including where they want a relationship to go, in which case you’ll never have to ask.  If you’re dating someone who doesn’t want to go the same place as you do, you aren’t attracting deliberately.

3) How to flirt text.  – I just saw this recently on a site for a very popular and mainstream women’s magazine.  My palm went right to my face.  Yep, I used to play these games thinking it would turn into something more.  All I got was guys that just wanted to flirt text.  Instead ask your self, what kind of person would be attracted to text flirting when we’re dating?  If that isn’t the kind of person you see yourself sharing your life with, ditch the games.

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4) It’s all a numbers game. – You know what’s a numbers game?  The lottery.  According to Ronald Wasserstein in his article on the Huffington Post your chances of winning the Powerball is 1 in over 175 million.  Don’t you think that your chances of attracting and being in the relationship of your dreams is just a bit better than that?  Well, I do.  Especially when you’re deliberately attracting.  If you’re playing it like a lottery (which also affirms to the Universe you believe your chances to be low, so I don’t suggest that) and going out on random dates without being clear, the chances are much lower it will be successful, and it will get frustrating.  With deliberate attraction you actually go on much fewer dates but are very intentional about whom you invest your time with.

5) When you’re making out on a first date… – I actually heard a well-known dating coach suggesting this on an online free love summit a few years ago.  He was saying to women to go ahead and have fun, make out, but don’t sleep with him and be sure to tell him that you don’t do that until you’re in a committed relationship. Omg and wtf and all the other initial combos that are out there for whacked out stuff to suggest!  I’ve read that supposedly when you exchange any kind of DNA with another person (including just saliva) you’re exchanging parts of your soul.  Your soul.  Even if you don’t believe that, just think about the physical and emotional investment you’re making in a heavy make out session and on a first date rarely will you know this person is your soul mate.  Again ask yourself, what kind of person would be attracted to this behavior?  Would my soul mate do this and want me to be doing this?  If the answer is no, then no make out…yet.

6) You have to date first to really know what you want. – This is along the lines of jumping in and it being a numbers game.  It suggests that you can figure things out along the way and that the more you do it the clearer you become.  Actually, I think it’s the opposite – the more you date unsuccessfully the cloudier and more negative things become.  The deliberate way of going about it would be by being mindful of your time, emotional investment, your heart, your positive energy level and to be just as mindful of that for everyone else you meet.  The clearer you are before you begin the dating process the more successful your dates and the relationship you find will be.

I hope this clarified how deliberate soul mate attraction is different and can be so much more productive than mainstream dating advice.  Also I hope it inspired you to really connect first with your soul and your highest desire for a relationship.

What dating advice have you received that wasn’t helpful for you?  I’d love to know, please comment or contact me at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com.

With Love,

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Why the Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work Sometimes for Love (or Anything Else)

Actually that title statement isn’t true.  The Law of Attraction always works.  It’s just that sometimes you might get the opposite of what you really thought you wanted.  Or you get the same you’ve always got – seeming like nothing ever happened.  That’s because the Law of Attraction has been misunderstood to be effective with thoughts and dreams alone.

Have you ever asked the Universe to bring you love but then just get either the same type of partner you’ve always attracted or no one at all?   Whether it was with love or something else, many of us have experience this using the Law of Attraction.

Please know that you can’t think your way into making a desire manifest into your life. The Universe doesn’t respond to your thoughts and words (not directly anyway), it responds to your feelings.  True, your thoughts can change your feelings – I’ll tell you how in a bit – but your feelings, or vibration, is what’s doing the attracting.

Therefore, if you’re making a wish, saying a prayer or setting an intent for true love to come into your life but the feelings behind it are – the fear of being alone, needing to get over heartbreak, unworthiness, depression, anxiety or anything else that feels urgent and unpleasant to you – then you will only attract people or situations that match those same feelings.  Attracting a partner from this low vibration isn’t ideal because like attracts like.  It can be like taking a pain killer.  You might feel some immediate relief but the initial cause of dis-ease will present itself in you and your partner.

So how do you manifest, pray and set intentions from a higher vibrating place when the whole idea of wanting something stems from the realization that you don’t currently have it?  There is a way to manifest by acknowledging the negative feelings AND focusing on the good feelings you do want to have instead.

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This a gradual process that I’ve found has worked for me in manifesting my husband and in other areas of my life:

1)    Fully experience the contrast – The negative feelings aren’t wrong or bad.  Allow yourself to experience any pain and take any steps here you need to get help.  Feeling this contrast brings forth “rockets of desire,” as Abraham-Hicks says, and clarity about the love you now intend to have.  If you hadn’t first experienced the contrast, you wouldn’t have clarity.  So, yay for your contrast!

2)    Declare what you WANT (not what you don’t want) – It doesn’t matter whether it’s in prayer, in your journal, to a friend, or on Twitter – declare to the Universe the love you intend to have now.  It commits you to taking this journey in a profound way.

3)    Tap into the positive feelings and essence qualities of your (coming soon) relationship – This is the part that gets skipped over very often.  The contrast provided the motivation, but the positive feelings are what you want to attract.  Ask your self – why do I want to meet my soul mate?  How do I want to feel when I’m with him?  Then practice experiencing those feelings as much as possible.

4)    Notice these feelings and this kind of love in your day-to-day life – Be these feelings.  Be this love.  Just like Gandhi’s, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”  Be the love you want to have.  Experience it in people, places and things that give you the feelings and essence qualities you want in your ideal relationship.  They are all around you waiting for you to take notice.  (This step was very fun for me to realize how much I was surrounded by such incredibly loving people.)

5)    Imagine your love is already in your life now and enjoy – Be the woman that you want to be with him and trust that he is on his way.  This is the Law of Allowing.  You have complete faith that the Universe is bringing your love to you because at this point he’s such a part of your being.  It was at this point in my own journey that my husband came into my life.

I hope you find using the Law of Attraction in this way to manifest your love and other desires extremely helpful and a whole lot more fun.

Have you used the Law of Attraction successfully to manifest something you wanted?  How did you feel and why did it work so well for you?  I’d love to hear from you!

If you need some guidance getting into that positive feeling place to manifest the love of your life, please contact me for a free 30 minute clarity session at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com!

Have a joyous and love-filled week!

Love,

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Can You Deliberately Attract Your Soul Mate Dating Online?

145943_9029The room lighting is dim but there are different color lights.  Flashing.  There are faces, many faces around, but you can’t help but be drawn to just him.  His eyes.  Oh, those eyes!  Locked with yours.  And in that moment you just knew he was the one.  And you were his one.  In that moment.  That moment that you first locked eyes with him…on a computer screen amongst 15 other profiles that showed up in your search.  The lights flashing are ads popping up on the screen.  And he’s not even locking eyes with you but the camera lense that he held up himself to take his profile picture.

Is this the romantic way that you imagine meeting your soul mate?  For me, ech, no way.  As a woman, I can say this seems to be the least ideal way to meet the love of your life.  I used to tell myself, “There’s no way I’m meeting the love of my life online.  It just isn’t going to happen that way.”  And then, just a few months later I met the love of my life online and it happened just that way.  Turns out many other great couples met their partners online, too, and not just the people in the commercials.

The more I apply the law of attraction and universal laws in my life, coach women and delve into creating the Deliberate Attraction program I realize more and more that dating online is an ideal way to use deliberate attraction in action.  Here are a few reasons why I think it works so well:

You can learn a lot about him quickly from his profile – Being very clear on what you want in a relationship and in a partner is so important to attracting the right partner and what’s great about dating online is being able to screen a potential date’s pertinent information before investing time and energy into the connection.  Where does he live?  Is he looking for marriage?  Does he have kids or want kids?  What religion, if any, is he?  If you meet in a bar you may spend a lot of time flirting, having fun, enjoy the chemistry and getting emotionally invested and never get around to asking these things until way too late.  By dating online you can see if this person wants the same basic things and has the same basic values before investing your time, emotions and energy.

He can learn a lot about you quickly from your profile – Also, without spending time and energy into a relationship first, he can know if you’re right for him.  Yes, I used the best glamorous, pretty snapshot I could find and said fun things and such, but also I was completely honest about wanting a serious relationship and children someday.  I was even honest about being vegan and very spiritual.  Yep, I don’t eat burgers and I’m kinda woo woo.  Do you think that turned some men off?  Uh, definitely.  Are those men I would want to go out with?  No.  Your soul mate will be drawn to your desires, your values and who you truly are. 

It’s where the men are – The chances of me meeting a potential soul mate just randomly somewhere was very, very slim given that I didn’t go out to bars, that my job as a yoga instructor (yoga also being female dominated) took me from place to place for short amounts of time, and that, at that time, I didn’t belong to a church or any clubs.  Yes, I could have joined a club or went to a church but even then, the chances I would meet a single guy ready to settle down was still small.  So I asked, where do the most single men that are ready for a relationship hang out?  And the answer was online.  For some reason they don’t seem to mind it as much as women do and even like it, go figure.  I chose the site that statistically had the most men on it and that I heard from various real people had marriage success for them.  Thank God I did, as I met my husband about seven weeks later right before he was about to quit the site.  When you put your profile online you are telling the Universe that you are totally ready to meet your soul mate, and you are supported in achieving your desire.

Personally I believe dating online is a wonderful tool if you are deliberately attracting your soul mate.  And though it may not be the most romantic at first or the answer for everyone, I know that I’m very grateful to have listened to guidance telling me to sign up when I did.  I hope these three reasons help you re-frame your relationship with dating online.

Would you like some guidance while starting your online dating journey?  I’d love to offer you a free 30-minute clarity session to help you do it successfully, please contact me at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com.

Love,

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3 Old School Love Attracting Methods That No Longer Work and What Does

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Do you remember what you were like when you were 18?  Do you remember how you viewed the world, your dreams, your ambitions, and love?  How about when you were 25?  Yeah, me neither.  It seems so long ago but all I know is that I was a completely different woman at each of those ages, and I’m completely different now.

By the time I got into my early thirties I realized that the methods I was using to attract “love” (if you can call flirting a method) at 18 and 25 were seriously not serving me well at the age of 32.  The old attraction paradigm that I was ingrained with in high school, from watching movies and television, and by pouring over teen magazines with my girlfriends only got me into relationships that, well, might suit an 18 or 25 year old just fine but wasn’t what I wanted anymore.  When I finally admitted to myself and to a select few close people that I wanted to get married and start a family, I knew that it was time to show that old attraction paradigm the door and bring in something new.

Here are three commonly believed attraction methods that I learned from the hard way in my twenties, and three new ways of deliberately attracting a soul mate that I implemented in my thirties – to my success:

Out: Being the cool girl by being okay with the relationship whatever and wherever that is.

First of all, for anyone that actually knows me…the words cool and Dina are a complete oxymoron.  That’s a clue that I really wasn’t being my self by suppressing my truth, needs and desires.  It’s shocking to me that this is still advised for women.

In: Decide exactly where you want a relationship to go before even going on the first date.

Before dating I got crystal clear on what I wanted in a relationship at the present time, which was a committed boyfriend/girlfriend situation leading to marriage and starting a family.  Very simple.  Know what you want clearly so you can attract a partner that wants the same thing as you.

Out: Trying to appeal to as many prospects as possible by being very general about who you are and what you want.

Similar to being cool, it’s easy to get response from more people this way but most of them won’t be a good fit in the long run because he or she never gets to see who you are in the beginning.  As time goes on and both of your preferences are revealed you might find out that you’re not a good match, resulting in heartbreak.

In: Be very specific, in a positive way because you’re wonderful, about who you are.

Whether it’s a religion, a political view, personal value, or dietary choice, it’s best to be clear on these things in the beginning.  When I set up my last online profile (which led me to my soul mate in 7 weeks) I said things I never said before upfront – that I’m very spiritual but not religious and that I’m vegan.  If a guy couldn’t live with either of those things then we would not be a good fit and I didn’t want to start dating him in the first place.  Yes, there were less men interested in me but my soul mate saw my profile and was like, “Heck yeah!”  (Actually he found me with the search term “spirituality.”) Be honest about your values and who you are.

Out: Deciding to go out with someone based on “chemistry.”

Oh boy, this is a big one.  It’s what love in epic movies and songs and literature is founded on.  We take it in high school and there’s a dating site named after it, shouldn’t there be chemistry before deciding to go out with someone?  In my opinion, not really.  There may be exceptions but usually it ends up not being what we think. When we feel chemistry very often it’s based on our baggage, limiting beliefs and unconscious junk, like the good girl who loves the bad boy.  Chemistry clouds the rational mind – where the excuses justifying a relationship come in – and it doesn’t usually last.

In: Deciding to go out with someone based on values, behavior towards you and others, and his or her actions.

This is deliberate attraction.  You decide what you want in advance, got clear on who you are and your values so when you meet him or her you are actually attracted because he or she is the type of partner you most desire.  And you know what else is fun about that?  The attraction and chemistry grows over time as you build your life together based on mutual respect.  Similar values, behavior and actions are extremely attractive.

In short, 1) knowing what you want, 2) being clear on who you are, 3) choosing a date based on values, behaviors and actions.

I hope you find these three attraction paradigm shifts inspiring and helpful in your search for soul mate love.  What is no longer serving you in your search for love?  If you care to share, as always I’d love read your comments.

Lots of joy and happiness to you on your journey!

Love,

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Are You Giving Too Much In Relationships?

Do you find yourself doing everything, or mostly everything, in your romantic relationships?  Does dating or being in a relationship leave you feeling drained?  If you answered yes, I can totally relate!  That was my experience, too, years ago.  What began as exciting and fun would eventually leave me feeling drained and ill.  By the age of 33 I knew I had to make a change about the way I was being in romantic relationships or I would never be happy and healthy in them.

Over the next few years I discovered a very interesting imbalance in myself that was causing this repeated pattern in my life – I love giving but I really struggled with being able to receive.  From a young age I prided myself on being strong and independent and able to take care of myself.

Just to be clear, these are great qualities to have – if they are in balance with some softer and more feminine qualities.  When it came to someone buying me dinner, surprising me with flowers, saying “I love you” to me, or even talk about providing a home for me – I would feel guilty, like I was taking something away, or fearful that I would owe him something.  I just couldn’t accept what was being offered with appreciation and gratitude. The result?  I scared off the loving and giving guys that really wanted to support me, and attracted the opposite.

A relationship, of any kind, is a two way street.  If someone is giving, someone has to receive it, too.  Personally, I love to give.  It feels great to have my gift accepted.  When it isn’t accepted graciously (or at least with a gracious “no, thank you”) it feels yucky.  What I’ve finally come to realize over these last few years is that other people love to give, too.  It makes people happy to know that what they are doing is appreciated – especially, in romantic relationships.  This realization has allowed me to graciously accept the love and generosity given to me in all kinds of relationships, and has allowed me to finally attract a man that loves to support and give to me as I love to support and give to him.

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The energy exchange of giving and receiving is like breathing.  It’s cyclical just like the inhalation and the exhalation.  If you only exhale then you don’t have any breath to keep exhaling with.  If you only inhale then you don’t have space to take in any more oxygen.  Without continuously doing both, you die.  It’s the same with the energy of a relationship – without the back and forth flowing energy of giving and receiving the relationship will wither.

Here’s a simple breathing and mantra meditation that helped me with the ability to receive:

Sit comfortably with an elongated spine and begin by just focusing on your breathing.  Take in a full inhalation allowing the rib cage and abdomen to expand and a full exhalation allowing all the air out of the lungs.  Continue in this way and notice your breathing slow down and becoming fuller and deeper.

On the inhalation silently say the mantra – I open myself fully to receive love.

On the exhalation silently say the mantra – I open myself fully to give love.

Continue for as long as you like.  Gradually you can shorten the mantras to be just “receive and give,” or release the mantras altogether and just be in the feeling space of receiving and giving. 

Learning to receive as much I give allowed me to have great relationships with my family and friends, become totally debt free, and to attract a partnership that leaves me feeling energized and inspired.  My deepest desire is that you attract a partnership that does the same for you.

I hope you find this meditation helpful to you!  I’m here to help and guide you on your journey, if you are interested in a free 30 minute clarity session with me please contact me at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com.

I’d like to hear from you, in what ways and areas of your life would you like to be to able to receive more?  Please leave your comments!

With Love,

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