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The Epiphany That Flipped Me From Bad Boys To Good Men

Not only did I like the bad boys…

If he was emotionally unavailable and at least somewhat cute…I was attracted to him.

But why? I was baffled at how I could fall for one after the other.

Flash forward to late 2010 when I was going through a soulmate attraction course in a book…

At some point during an exercise, it dawned on me (much like an anvil falling on my head) that the part of me that lack self-worth thrived on the devoted, NEEDY, attention this type of man showered on me in the first few months.

You see…they needed me (or my car) more than I needed them.

And because I had a gaping hole in my own foundation, I found security in this co-dependence.

After that revelation I was able to:

1) Complete myself.
2) Let go of the anchor of security and be motivated by love instead.
3) Be repelled by these men while being attracted to GOOD MEN.

Would that have dawned on me with my own journal writing? Maybe.

But I got there a lot faster because I was going through a course in a book that prompted my subconscious to bring that forth.

And I address this exact epiphany in module 4 about Healing Wounds of my Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate course, and guide you through an exercise that will help you do the same.

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Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate

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Dating Deliberately To Attract Love

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Confidence For Women: Inner Radiance For Living Your Purpose

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Men Won’t Approach Women and You Will Be Surprised Why Not

Women Are Wondering Why Men Aren’t Approaching Them

 

Most women I talk to want their dream man to take the initiative and approach them.

Perhaps it’s a fantasy, but all the time I hear from my clients that they dream their soulmate will come up to them at the coffee shop, library, or grocery store. And everything will just progress naturally from there.

It could be due to how social media has changed human interaction, or it could be that online dating has made it possible for men to date without ever approaching a woman again.

Whatever it was, I had to get to the bottom of it. So I did some Googling and was shocked at what I find out.

I share the top reasons men said why they didn’t approach women and what you can do about it right here.

The One Question That Will Help You Get Over a Narcissist For Good

Date Deliberately and Avoid the Narcissist For Good

There’s a name for that guy that seemingly has his act together, is so fun, so charismatic, and hot, but doesn’t reveal his unavailability until he’s left you heartbroken and confused. He’s a narcissist.

And it isn’t that he loves himself, it’s that he’s created an over-inflated image of himself to compensate for something broken in him – like wounding from his childhood.

So what does that mean for you in a relationship with him?

It means it’s all about HIM. His “love” for you is all about what you are doing for him in this moment. For example, you could be his distraction from reality, his avoidance of being alone, his intimate satisfaction, or his trophy to appear complete to the others in his life.

But it isn’t about love. As a matter of fact, as soon as he doesn’t need what you’re providing him any more he will disappear.

A narcissist has mastered the art of charming others and faking love by love bombing in the beginning before his true colors start showing. He relies on this act to get a woman because he doesn’t know how to love from his heart and provide lasting value, as it’s all about him.

Some of the most common benefits narcissists initially give women are:

Fun/Funny

Passionate

Alluring

Unpredictable

Exciting

Romantic

Needing Her

Attention

…And probably hundreds more.

So how can you be prepared when you’re dating to not fall for a narcissist again? How do you know if the qualities he’s presenting are real or just manifestations of his problem?

This is what I ask all of my clients that have a pattern of dating narcissists to do:

List all of the qualities that they loved about their exes.

Then honestly ask themselves, “If I didn’t need to have those qualities present to love someone, then what would I be attracted to instead?”

The answer to that question reveals your soulmate. What’s left over after the outward mask is dropped is who your soulmate partner really is. And what’s illuminated is your heart just open to pure love over external satisfaction.

This weekend I challenge you to sit down and quietly journal on those questions.

What was revealed to you? Were you surprised by anything? How will this change the way you date and get to know others?

Please feel free to hit reply and let me know your thoughts! And if you’d like additional help please take advantage of a free 30-minute deliberate attraction session with me or grabbing my courses for only $9.99 through Saturday 3/31! Details below…

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    Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate

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    Module 1: Getting To Know What Love Is

    Find out your true soul’s expression of love and believe that it’s not only possible but that you will never settle for less again. 4 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 2: Transmuting Energy Blocking Love

    Transforming energy from past romantic or family relationships into a powerful force that will draw love to you. 4 lessons.

    Module 3: Forgiving and Releasing Ties To the Past

    Free your heart from painful ties to past romantic or family relationships so you can trust and love again. 3 lesson and 2 guided meditations.

    Module 4: Evolving Agreements and Hidden Personalities

    Evolve any unconscious agreements or parts of you blocking love into energy that will help you get the love you want. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 5: The Divine Feminine In You

    Discovering and merging with the most radiant and dynamic goddess within you. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 6: Loving Yourself To Love Another

    Turn any negative self talk around into truly appreciating and loving your unique gifts, so your soul mate can, too. 4 lessons.

    Module 7: Knowing the Essence of Your Soul Mate Partnership

    Connecting with the energy and deep values of your soul mate partnership so you never settle for less-than again. 2 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 8: Recognizing Your Soul Mate In Person

    Discovering and becoming very clear about the qualities of your soul mate and your future life together to attract just the right person for you. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 9: Manifesting Your Soul Mate With Inspired Action

    Creating a deliberate action plan with simple steps you can take now to meet your soul mate. 3 lessons.

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    Dating Deliberately To Attract the One

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    Module 1: Clarity and Focus To Magnetize Your Soul Mate

    Become crystal clear and focused on your soul mate and the partnership you want to attract now. Get a glimpse into your ideal future life together and begin to create the vision of the life you want.

    Module 2: Turning Limiting Beliefs and Fears Into Love Magnets

    Learn the key factor to making the law of attraction and affirmations work for you. Turn limiting beliefs into empowerment and tap into your inner confidence for dating success.

    Module 3: Dating Deliberately With Confidence and Joy

    Create a deliberate action plan for meeting your soul mate and to date with ease. Plus, an online dating crash course for cutting through the b.s. and meeting your soul mate without wasting time.

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    Confidence For Women: Inner Radiance For Living Your Purpose

    Naturally and effectively improve your personal and professional confidence and self-esteem with the simple, yet powerful, exercises in this course.

    These techniques use your imagination to change your mindset and creatively apply the methods of a confident, self-loving, and successful woman – so results are effective and noticeable.

    Course includes:

    Your Vision of Confidence – Imagine being the woman you want to be! Clarifying and visualizing what being a confident woman ideally means to you and embodying the qualities of a woman you most admire.

    Creating Confident and Loving Self-Talk – Loving yourself! Improving self-esteem and self-worth by transmuting negative self-talk and replacing it with empowering beliefs about yourself your unique purpose in life to create confidence that begins on the inside.

    Living Confidently – Acting confidently and living your dreams today! Taking simple and powerful steps in your daily life that will improve your mindset and quality of life – and allow you to stop playing small and live with confidence.

    Whether you want to go after a dream, nail a job interview, or date with ease and joy to attract the relationship you desire…

    By the end of Confidence For Women you will have an action plan for pursuing your purpose and the confidence to do it!

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What’s She Got That I Don’t Have?

Confidence For Women

Mere minutes after I had just been wondering, “Wow, he is cute and really, really nice. Is he single?” his fiance walks up and he embraces and kisses her like he will never let her go.

He was the star of an off-off Broadway Shakespearean play – handsome, funny, intelligent, and gentlemanly. I was working admission for the play and beforehand we had started a friendly banter which prompted my fantasy of him being my boyfriend.

And then his fiance arrives with her family.

It was so obvious that he truly loved her and was thrilled about their upcoming wedding in two weeks, that I was quietly embarrassed about my earlier daydream. At the curtain call applause he even thanked her in front of the packed theater!

Was I jealous? Yes. Very much so.

But even better, I was curious. She didn’t seem extraordinary on the outside so I genuinely wanted to know her secret.

And as embarrassing as it is to admit it, at that time in my life that was only one of a handful of times I asked myself the question, “What does she have that I don’t have?”

In these cases the lady didn’t seem to be:

Extraordinarily attractive

Glamorous

Alluring or mysterious

Successful or rich

Bubbling with vivaciousness

or

Anything else that I believed men couldn’t resist.

And it took a few more years and a ton of inner work for me to figure out that this kind of woman, that a man wholeheartedly loves and commits to, is so full of self-love and self-respect that she is able to mirror that love back to her man and he is able to mirror it back to her.

She is a confident and whole woman so she does not require her man to “do” anything for her approval or love.

And it took another 3 years for me to stop chasing confidence on the outside and to start living it from the inside – and inspire the love from my husband-to-be that I witnessed that actor had for his fiance.

In the Confidence For Women: Inner Radiance For Living Your Purpose course there are 11 simple yet effective exercises designed to help you consciously and naturally improve your self-esteem, self-love, and confidence for anything you want to accomplish in your life – including attracting your soulmate.

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Wouldn’t it be awesome to look back a year from now and be that woman you’ve been wondering, “What does she have that I don’t” about?

I hope to see you there, and have an amazing weekend!

Love,

Dina Robison

Can You Make a Certain Person Love You?

So you’ve got a crush, an infatuation with a particular man. Maybe you even had a relationship with him.

But, for whatever reason that only has to do with him, he doesn’t want to be with you. Can you make him change his mind?

The short answer…No. Sorry.

I wish I could tell you otherwise because that might be what you want to hear but I didn’t become a soulmate attraction coach to encourage you to contort yourself into a frenzy to get the attention of one man who probably will never love you and isn’t worthy of 1% of your love.

Did I just say that?

Yeah, I did. And I apologize if that stings.

Unfortunately, we can never control other people and what they do. But here’s what you can do…

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  1. You can use the sting of his unrequited love as inspiration for you to get very clear on what you do want in life now and find the man that does love you.

  2. You can meditate on what it is that you’re so attracted to in him. When I last had this happen in 2009 I asked myself, “What was it that I felt he gave me that I so desperately wanted?” The answer inspired me to make the big change in my life that ultimately led me to my soulmate.

  3. You can discover how you imagine you would feel in partnership with this man, why the idea of it is so appealing to you, but now focus on finding the man that really wants to you make you feel that way.

Having a broken or hurting heart can be a powerful jumping off point for going down a new path to the real soulmate relationship you are meant to be in.

This is why so many find their partner following a big heartbreak. The desire to find real love became so strong with a broken heart that the clarity for the love they wanted drew it in.

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Lots of Love,

Dina Robison

How To Be the Beautiful Goddess That Attracts Her Soul Mate

“Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes.  It is not something physical.” ~ Sophia Loren

“When I go out now men are staring at me or engaging me in conversation!”  One of my clients said this to me after our session on embodying divine goddess energy a couple of weeks ago.  She discovered what her divine, feminine nature was and learned to merge with that energy.  As a result men are staring at her even when she goes to the store in her sweatpants and without make up.

Do you want to attract your soul mate but don’t feel beautiful enough to draw in the man that you really want?

As a woman I can honestly say that I’ve felt like this at times in the past and still struggle with this from time to time.  There probably aren’t too many women who haven’t had this feeling either at one time or ongoing.

But hey – they say that Cleopatra wasn’t a traditional beauty and didn’t look much like Elizabeth Taylor at all, but she is forever legendary for her power and goddess-like energy.  That somehow comforts me.  I read an article on the Huffington post about seven famous, and beautiful, actresses who were all told at some point in their careers that they weren’t pretty enough to make it.  Also comforting to know that beauty isn’t just about physical perfection and that it radiates from the inside out.

There are countless examples of women throughout time who weren’t perfect looking (who is really?) but are still radiantly beautiful.  They are beautiful because they are fully embodying their own goddess-like nature and are living from that energy.

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In the search for love you must learn to do the same as your ideal soul mate partner is drawn to your unique, goddess-like qualities – they are the perfect compliment to his masculine or warrior qualities (somehow saying his “God” qualities there seems inappropriate).

So how do you embody your individual goddess-like nature?

1) Write down your unique qualities both physical and non-physical.  Try not to judge what is right or wrong, an appealing quality or not.  All qualities have some benefit and a potential challenge to them – so there isn’t a good or bad.  Some examples could be:

–       Strong

–       Intelligent

–       Driven

–       Sensitive/emotional

–       Passionate

–       Athletic

–       Curvaceous

–       Lithe

–       Relaxed

–       Motivated

–       Truthful

–       Nurturing/Mothering

–       Helpful

–       Delicate

–       Innocent

And continue to list qualities that are uniquely present and important to you in your life (i.e., it helps you be successful in your career or makes you a great mom).

2) Find a symbol that reminds you of your unique energy.  This can be a picture or statue of a goddess or even a picture of a real woman, like a celebrity, that is living fully from that energy as well.  If you’re a creative type you can even draw her or write about her.  Just find someone that can be your continued inspiration.

3) When you feel you need a “beauty” boost – close your eyes, sit in meditation, and imagine invoking the energy of that woman goddess and merging with her.  If you chose Cleopatra, then literally imagine what it would be like to be living your life with her energy.  (But not her life, yikes.)  If you are preparing for a date, a job interview, a speech, a performance or anything – invoke her energy and merge with her.

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This can be a very powerful and life changing exercise to do regularly.  It has the power to change how you take care of yourself, how you eat, how you dress, how you interact with others, how you do anything.  It has the power to make you look and feel beautiful anytime.  It has the power to draw that one man to you who will absolutely adore you in all your beauty.  (Actually, it will probably draw many more to you but ideally you will just choose one.)

I hope you find this goddess invoking exercise fun and helpful.  What else do you do to embrace your own beauty?  Please comment below!

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With Love & Joy,

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6 Pieces of Popular Dating Advice to Not Take If You Want to Attract Your Soul Mate

One of the main reasons I was inspired to coach and teach women about attracting a soul mate deliberately is because after my journey – including two years of not dating, about nine months of deliberately attracting, then meeting and marrying my soul mate – I discovered that all the things that worked for me was the complete and total opposite of what mainstream dating advice (from media, articles and even well meaning friends) was suggesting to the masses.

I’ve heard just outright poor advice from well-known coaches via television, podcasts and articles and from friends and acquaintances that buy into that belief system about dating and love.  Fortunately, by the age of 35 I was connected enough to my own soul to know what was right for me in attracting the man that I would love and adore (and that would love and adore me!)

Of course, as a coach and human being, I cannot tell you or anyone else what is best for you and your soul mate in love.  When it comes to what you’re looking for in your partner, how you want to express love with your soul mate, what time is right to be intimate together, how often you see each other, how often you communicate and etc. – you have to do what is right for you at the highest level.  I certainly had my own preferences that worked perfectly for me, but you must decide what is best for you.

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However, if you intend to attract your soul mate and a relationship that is joyous and fulfilling, you should absolutely enter the relationship from day one with the end desire in mind – for you and your partnership.  That is what deliberate attraction is all about.

And these 6 pieces of dating advice that I actually heard or read at some point, well, just plain suck if you want to deliberately attract.  Here they are:

1) Just jump in. – As a coach I understand the benefit of just getting out of one’s head and taking the next step but whoa, hold on.  Are you really ready to date at this time?  Are you clear about what you want in your life and with a partner?  Are you clear of any limiting beliefs or negative patterns that will draw the wrong partner to you?  And most importantly, is your last relationship fully completed?  If any of these questions are NO, it’s crucial to take the time to figure things out before jumping in.

2) Don’t ask a guy where it’s going too soon. You can read my post about how to know where your relationship is going for more, but in a nutshell; with deliberate attraction you don’t date unless you know where you’re going and what your intention is.  That doesn’t mean every first date will potentially be the one – but that you choose your dates based on whether they have the same values as you, including where they want a relationship to go, in which case you’ll never have to ask.  If you’re dating someone who doesn’t want to go the same place as you do, you aren’t attracting deliberately.

3) How to flirt text.  – I just saw this recently on a site for a very popular and mainstream women’s magazine.  My palm went right to my face.  Yep, I used to play these games thinking it would turn into something more.  All I got was guys that just wanted to flirt text.  Instead ask your self, what kind of person would be attracted to text flirting when we’re dating?  If that isn’t the kind of person you see yourself sharing your life with, ditch the games.

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4) It’s all a numbers game. – You know what’s a numbers game?  The lottery.  According to Ronald Wasserstein in his article on the Huffington Post your chances of winning the Powerball is 1 in over 175 million.  Don’t you think that your chances of attracting and being in the relationship of your dreams is just a bit better than that?  Well, I do.  Especially when you’re deliberately attracting.  If you’re playing it like a lottery (which also affirms to the Universe you believe your chances to be low, so I don’t suggest that) and going out on random dates without being clear, the chances are much lower it will be successful, and it will get frustrating.  With deliberate attraction you actually go on much fewer dates but are very intentional about whom you invest your time with.

5) When you’re making out on a first date… – I actually heard a well-known dating coach suggesting this on an online free love summit a few years ago.  He was saying to women to go ahead and have fun, make out, but don’t sleep with him and be sure to tell him that you don’t do that until you’re in a committed relationship. Omg and wtf and all the other initial combos that are out there for whacked out stuff to suggest!  I’ve read that supposedly when you exchange any kind of DNA with another person (including just saliva) you’re exchanging parts of your soul.  Your soul.  Even if you don’t believe that, just think about the physical and emotional investment you’re making in a heavy make out session and on a first date rarely will you know this person is your soul mate.  Again ask yourself, what kind of person would be attracted to this behavior?  Would my soul mate do this and want me to be doing this?  If the answer is no, then no make out…yet.

6) You have to date first to really know what you want. – This is along the lines of jumping in and it being a numbers game.  It suggests that you can figure things out along the way and that the more you do it the clearer you become.  Actually, I think it’s the opposite – the more you date unsuccessfully the cloudier and more negative things become.  The deliberate way of going about it would be by being mindful of your time, emotional investment, your heart, your positive energy level and to be just as mindful of that for everyone else you meet.  The clearer you are before you begin the dating process the more successful your dates and the relationship you find will be.

I hope this clarified how deliberate soul mate attraction is different and can be so much more productive than mainstream dating advice.  Also I hope it inspired you to really connect first with your soul and your highest desire for a relationship.

What dating advice have you received that wasn’t helpful for you?  I’d love to know, please comment or contact me at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com.

With Love,

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