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The Epiphany That Flipped Me From Bad Boys To Good Men

Not only did I like the bad boys…

If he was emotionally unavailable and at least somewhat cute…I was attracted to him.

But why? I was baffled at how I could fall for one after the other.

Flash forward to late 2010 when I was going through a soulmate attraction course in a book…

At some point during an exercise, it dawned on me (much like an anvil falling on my head) that the part of me that lack self-worth thrived on the devoted, NEEDY, attention this type of man showered on me in the first few months.

You see…they needed me (or my car) more than I needed them.

And because I had a gaping hole in my own foundation, I found security in this co-dependence.

After that revelation I was able to:

1) Complete myself.
2) Let go of the anchor of security and be motivated by love instead.
3) Be repelled by these men while being attracted to GOOD MEN.

Would that have dawned on me with my own journal writing? Maybe.

But I got there a lot faster because I was going through a course in a book that prompted my subconscious to bring that forth.

And I address this exact epiphany in module 4 about Healing Wounds of my Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate course, and guide you through an exercise that will help you do the same.

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Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate

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Dating Deliberately To Attract Love

“Dina’s course is focused, enjoyable to walk through and really helps someone who wants to know how to apply clarity and direction to focusing their dating life know how to do it! To learn from past relationship mistakes and move on. Changing mindsets in any area of life is HUGE and Dina helps you take it step by step.” – Holli

Confidence For Women: Inner Radiance For Living Your Purpose

“Great exercises in a concise course. Nice delivery and visually appealing.” – Alexis

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May Special On Soulmate Attraction and Dating Courses

Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate and Dating Courses May Sale

For the month of May, get any of my soulmate attraction, dating, or confidence courses for just $9.99!

Each course comes with lifetime access, ongoing online support from me, and a 30-day money-back guarantee. 

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The One Question That Will Help You Get Over a Narcissist For Good

Date Deliberately and Avoid the Narcissist For Good

There’s a name for that guy that seemingly has his act together, is so fun, so charismatic, and hot, but doesn’t reveal his unavailability until he’s left you heartbroken and confused. He’s a narcissist.

And it isn’t that he loves himself, it’s that he’s created an over-inflated image of himself to compensate for something broken in him – like wounding from his childhood.

So what does that mean for you in a relationship with him?

It means it’s all about HIM. His “love” for you is all about what you are doing for him in this moment. For example, you could be his distraction from reality, his avoidance of being alone, his intimate satisfaction, or his trophy to appear complete to the others in his life.

But it isn’t about love. As a matter of fact, as soon as he doesn’t need what you’re providing him any more he will disappear.

A narcissist has mastered the art of charming others and faking love by love bombing in the beginning before his true colors start showing. He relies on this act to get a woman because he doesn’t know how to love from his heart and provide lasting value, as it’s all about him.

Some of the most common benefits narcissists initially give women are:

Fun/Funny

Passionate

Alluring

Unpredictable

Exciting

Romantic

Needing Her

Attention

…And probably hundreds more.

So how can you be prepared when you’re dating to not fall for a narcissist again? How do you know if the qualities he’s presenting are real or just manifestations of his problem?

This is what I ask all of my clients that have a pattern of dating narcissists to do:

List all of the qualities that they loved about their exes.

Then honestly ask themselves, “If I didn’t need to have those qualities present to love someone, then what would I be attracted to instead?”

The answer to that question reveals your soulmate. What’s left over after the outward mask is dropped is who your soulmate partner really is. And what’s illuminated is your heart just open to pure love over external satisfaction.

This weekend I challenge you to sit down and quietly journal on those questions.

What was revealed to you? Were you surprised by anything? How will this change the way you date and get to know others?

Please feel free to hit reply and let me know your thoughts! And if you’d like additional help please take advantage of a free 30-minute deliberate attraction session with me or grabbing my courses for only $9.99 through Saturday 3/31! Details below…

  1. Schedule a free 30-minute deliberate attraction session with me here and we can discuss any blocks you feel you may have and how to bust through them. We can also explore how a one-on-one coaching relationship can help you.

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    Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate

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    Module 1: Getting To Know What Love Is

    Find out your true soul’s expression of love and believe that it’s not only possible but that you will never settle for less again. 4 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 2: Transmuting Energy Blocking Love

    Transforming energy from past romantic or family relationships into a powerful force that will draw love to you. 4 lessons.

    Module 3: Forgiving and Releasing Ties To the Past

    Free your heart from painful ties to past romantic or family relationships so you can trust and love again. 3 lesson and 2 guided meditations.

    Module 4: Evolving Agreements and Hidden Personalities

    Evolve any unconscious agreements or parts of you blocking love into energy that will help you get the love you want. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 5: The Divine Feminine In You

    Discovering and merging with the most radiant and dynamic goddess within you. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 6: Loving Yourself To Love Another

    Turn any negative self talk around into truly appreciating and loving your unique gifts, so your soul mate can, too. 4 lessons.

    Module 7: Knowing the Essence of Your Soul Mate Partnership

    Connecting with the energy and deep values of your soul mate partnership so you never settle for less-than again. 2 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 8: Recognizing Your Soul Mate In Person

    Discovering and becoming very clear about the qualities of your soul mate and your future life together to attract just the right person for you. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 9: Manifesting Your Soul Mate With Inspired Action

    Creating a deliberate action plan with simple steps you can take now to meet your soul mate. 3 lessons.

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    Downloadable mp3s of 7 guided meditations, worksheets for each module, a bonus Q & A section with common questions asked about the course and dating, and ongoing online support from me personally!

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    Dating Deliberately To Attract the One

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    Module 1: Clarity and Focus To Magnetize Your Soul Mate

    Become crystal clear and focused on your soul mate and the partnership you want to attract now. Get a glimpse into your ideal future life together and begin to create the vision of the life you want.

    Module 2: Turning Limiting Beliefs and Fears Into Love Magnets

    Learn the key factor to making the law of attraction and affirmations work for you. Turn limiting beliefs into empowerment and tap into your inner confidence for dating success.

    Module 3: Dating Deliberately With Confidence and Joy

    Create a deliberate action plan for meeting your soul mate and to date with ease. Plus, an online dating crash course for cutting through the b.s. and meeting your soul mate without wasting time.

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    3 Guided Meditation mp3s

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    Confidence For Women: Inner Radiance For Living Your Purpose

    Naturally and effectively improve your personal and professional confidence and self-esteem with the simple, yet powerful, exercises in this course.

    These techniques use your imagination to change your mindset and creatively apply the methods of a confident, self-loving, and successful woman – so results are effective and noticeable.

    Course includes:

    Your Vision of Confidence – Imagine being the woman you want to be! Clarifying and visualizing what being a confident woman ideally means to you and embodying the qualities of a woman you most admire.

    Creating Confident and Loving Self-Talk – Loving yourself! Improving self-esteem and self-worth by transmuting negative self-talk and replacing it with empowering beliefs about yourself your unique purpose in life to create confidence that begins on the inside.

    Living Confidently – Acting confidently and living your dreams today! Taking simple and powerful steps in your daily life that will improve your mindset and quality of life – and allow you to stop playing small and live with confidence.

    Whether you want to go after a dream, nail a job interview, or date with ease and joy to attract the relationship you desire…

    By the end of Confidence For Women you will have an action plan for pursuing your purpose and the confidence to do it!

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What’s She Got That I Don’t Have?

Confidence For Women

Mere minutes after I had just been wondering, “Wow, he is cute and really, really nice. Is he single?” his fiance walks up and he embraces and kisses her like he will never let her go.

He was the star of an off-off Broadway Shakespearean play – handsome, funny, intelligent, and gentlemanly. I was working admission for the play and beforehand we had started a friendly banter which prompted my fantasy of him being my boyfriend.

And then his fiance arrives with her family.

It was so obvious that he truly loved her and was thrilled about their upcoming wedding in two weeks, that I was quietly embarrassed about my earlier daydream. At the curtain call applause he even thanked her in front of the packed theater!

Was I jealous? Yes. Very much so.

But even better, I was curious. She didn’t seem extraordinary on the outside so I genuinely wanted to know her secret.

And as embarrassing as it is to admit it, at that time in my life that was only one of a handful of times I asked myself the question, “What does she have that I don’t have?”

In these cases the lady didn’t seem to be:

Extraordinarily attractive

Glamorous

Alluring or mysterious

Successful or rich

Bubbling with vivaciousness

or

Anything else that I believed men couldn’t resist.

And it took a few more years and a ton of inner work for me to figure out that this kind of woman, that a man wholeheartedly loves and commits to, is so full of self-love and self-respect that she is able to mirror that love back to her man and he is able to mirror it back to her.

She is a confident and whole woman so she does not require her man to “do” anything for her approval or love.

And it took another 3 years for me to stop chasing confidence on the outside and to start living it from the inside – and inspire the love from my husband-to-be that I witnessed that actor had for his fiance.

In the Confidence For Women: Inner Radiance For Living Your Purpose course there are 11 simple yet effective exercises designed to help you consciously and naturally improve your self-esteem, self-love, and confidence for anything you want to accomplish in your life – including attracting your soulmate.

And it’s on sale for only $9.99 (regularly $39.99) through the end of this weekend 3/11!

Preview the first two lectures for free right here – including The Truth About How the Media Diminishes Confidence In Women right here.

Oh, and if you get the course you have lifetime access to the material and the Q & A discussion board, plus a 30 day money-back guarantee if you don’t like it for any reason.

Wouldn’t it be awesome to look back a year from now and be that woman you’ve been wondering, “What does she have that I don’t” about?

I hope to see you there, and have an amazing weekend!

Love,

Dina Robison

Expand Your Love With This Writing Exercise, I Dare You

There’s debate as to whether it is human nature or simply our conditioning to focus on what’s going wrong instead of what’s going right.  I can’t say I really know.  Either way, sometimes things happen in life that can leave you feeling unloved, sad or lonely – a break up, loss of a job, or any kind of rejection really.  In those moments it’s totally natural and normal to feel the pain of the loss, and I recommend that you allow yourself to feel it fully.

However, once you’ve felt it and acknowledged the feelings honestly then I recommend you gradually bring your vibration back up by beginning to focus on what’s going right.  I say gradually because it can take days, weeks or even months depending on your situation, trust your intuition with how long that should take for you.  I’ve heard and read from experts in the area of grief that the process of grieving for a big loss averages about one year.

After a time of allowing, then it’s time to be deliberate about focusing on where you want to be, not where you’re currently at.  Energetically you want to get in alignment with what you want so it can come to you.

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So how do you go from feeling unlovable and lonely to fully loved and abundantly blessed?

A few weeks ago I did this exercise where I wrote about a 3 to 5 month period of time in my childhood where I felt particularly confident, present, in charge of my life, successful and liked by my peers.  It was amazing how just recalling that time brought me back to the feeling of joy and success.  What’s awesome is that the feeling has stayed with me since.

Write your personal history out, kind of like you’re writing a long bio or your life story, and EXPAND on the all the love you’ve received.  Similar to re-writing your relationship story, this is re-visioning your past story.  Actually, it’s more like changing your current perspective because these are all events that happened but you’re only including the love, the success, the joy and the happiness.

Here’s the exercise:

–       Grab a pen and piece of paper or a journal.

–       Begin writing about your life going back as far as you can remember or just a time that was particularly awesome for you.

–       Write about the moments that you remember bringing you joy.  Write about when you loved and were loved.  Write about when you accomplished things and were acknowledged for them.  Write about praise and compliments you received.  Write about times you can remember feeling really good.

–       Leave out anything that doesn’t feel good.

–       When you’ve finished, read it.  Again and again.

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How does that feel to you?  If you are even feeling a teensy bit better then it is totally working.  Your good feelings are your guide to joy.  Your thoughts give you feelings.  You choose your thoughts and focus.  So when you can, make it good.

I hope you find this exercise fun and helpful!  Please feel free to comment or contact me at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com if you have any questions or successes with this!

With Love,

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