Tag Archives: deliberate attraction

Is Now a Stranger Time Than Ever To Date?

Finding Love In a Modern World

With so much of our attention on social media and much less connection in real life, how does one go about dating to find love nowadays?

Being Deliberate About Dating

Technology can easily send our brains in too many directions, so now more than ever it’s crucial to be very deliberate about anything that you want in your life. And dating to find love is no different.

In my latest blog post, How To Find Love In Modern Times, I share the four most essential tips for dating and seeking love in our modern times. In this article I cover:

  • The first and most important step to take before you date (or do anything!)
  • The dating tool that’s one of the best ways to meet people now.
  • What you should be doing while you’re still waiting to meet the one — and even after you do.
  • And, though I’m not a big fan of The Rules — I think this one is more crucial than EVER before. No, you might not like it, but I’m sticking by it.

Read the full article at dinarobison.com here.

The One Question That Will Help You Get Over a Narcissist For Good

Date Deliberately and Avoid the Narcissist For Good

There’s a name for that guy that seemingly has his act together, is so fun, so charismatic, and hot, but doesn’t reveal his unavailability until he’s left you heartbroken and confused. He’s a narcissist.

And it isn’t that he loves himself, it’s that he’s created an over-inflated image of himself to compensate for something broken in him – like wounding from his childhood.

So what does that mean for you in a relationship with him?

It means it’s all about HIM. His “love” for you is all about what you are doing for him in this moment. For example, you could be his distraction from reality, his avoidance of being alone, his intimate satisfaction, or his trophy to appear complete to the others in his life.

But it isn’t about love. As a matter of fact, as soon as he doesn’t need what you’re providing him any more he will disappear.

A narcissist has mastered the art of charming others and faking love by love bombing in the beginning before his true colors start showing. He relies on this act to get a woman because he doesn’t know how to love from his heart and provide lasting value, as it’s all about him.

Some of the most common benefits narcissists initially give women are:







Needing Her


…And probably hundreds more.

So how can you be prepared when you’re dating to not fall for a narcissist again? How do you know if the qualities he’s presenting are real or just manifestations of his problem?

This is what I ask all of my clients that have a pattern of dating narcissists to do:

List all of the qualities that they loved about their exes.

Then honestly ask themselves, “If I didn’t need to have those qualities present to love someone, then what would I be attracted to instead?”

The answer to that question reveals your soulmate. What’s left over after the outward mask is dropped is who your soulmate partner really is. And what’s illuminated is your heart just open to pure love over external satisfaction.

This weekend I challenge you to sit down and quietly journal on those questions.

What was revealed to you? Were you surprised by anything? How will this change the way you date and get to know others?

Please feel free to hit reply and let me know your thoughts! And if you’d like additional help please take advantage of a free 30-minute deliberate attraction session with me or grabbing my courses for only $9.99 through Saturday 3/31! Details below…

  1. Schedule a free 30-minute deliberate attraction session with me here and we can discuss any blocks you feel you may have and how to bust through them. We can also explore how a one-on-one coaching relationship can help you.

  2. Grab one or more of my online courses for only $9.99 each through Saturday 3/31! I go over the concept of wounds in the Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate and Confidence For Women courses.

    Preview each course at the links below:

    Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate

    “I am really loving your program, visualizations – especially the
    future vision of seeing your partner.. It is really one of my favorite
    programs that I have done!” Tali, course student

    Module 1: Getting To Know What Love Is

    Find out your true soul’s expression of love and believe that it’s not only possible but that you will never settle for less again. 4 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 2: Transmuting Energy Blocking Love

    Transforming energy from past romantic or family relationships into a powerful force that will draw love to you. 4 lessons.

    Module 3: Forgiving and Releasing Ties To the Past

    Free your heart from painful ties to past romantic or family relationships so you can trust and love again. 3 lesson and 2 guided meditations.

    Module 4: Evolving Agreements and Hidden Personalities

    Evolve any unconscious agreements or parts of you blocking love into energy that will help you get the love you want. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 5: The Divine Feminine In You

    Discovering and merging with the most radiant and dynamic goddess within you. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 6: Loving Yourself To Love Another

    Turn any negative self talk around into truly appreciating and loving your unique gifts, so your soul mate can, too. 4 lessons.

    Module 7: Knowing the Essence of Your Soul Mate Partnership

    Connecting with the energy and deep values of your soul mate partnership so you never settle for less-than again. 2 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 8: Recognizing Your Soul Mate In Person

    Discovering and becoming very clear about the qualities of your soul mate and your future life together to attract just the right person for you. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.

    Module 9: Manifesting Your Soul Mate With Inspired Action

    Creating a deliberate action plan with simple steps you can take now to meet your soul mate. 3 lessons.

    Plus You Will Get:

    Downloadable mp3s of 7 guided meditations, worksheets for each module, a bonus Q & A section with common questions asked about the course and dating, and ongoing online support from me personally!

    Get Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate for $9.99 (regularly $75) here!

    Dating Deliberately To Attract the One

    “The material is easily presented, straight and to the point. Really helps someone who wants to know how to apply clarity and direction to focusing their dating life know how to do it! To learn from past relationship mistakes and move on.” Holli

    What You Will Get:

    Module 1: Clarity and Focus To Magnetize Your Soul Mate

    Become crystal clear and focused on your soul mate and the partnership you want to attract now. Get a glimpse into your ideal future life together and begin to create the vision of the life you want.

    Module 2: Turning Limiting Beliefs and Fears Into Love Magnets

    Learn the key factor to making the law of attraction and affirmations work for you. Turn limiting beliefs into empowerment and tap into your inner confidence for dating success.

    Module 3: Dating Deliberately With Confidence and Joy

    Create a deliberate action plan for meeting your soul mate and to date with ease. Plus, an online dating crash course for cutting through the b.s. and meeting your soul mate without wasting time.

    Plus You Will Get:

    3 Guided Meditation mp3s

    The Dating Deliberately Workbook

    A Bonus Q & A Section

    Ongoing Online Support From Me Personally

    Get Dating Deliberately To Attract the One For $9.99 (regularly $45) Here!

    Confidence For Women: Inner Radiance For Living Your Purpose

    Naturally and effectively improve your personal and professional confidence and self-esteem with the simple, yet powerful, exercises in this course.

    These techniques use your imagination to change your mindset and creatively apply the methods of a confident, self-loving, and successful woman – so results are effective and noticeable.

    Course includes:

    Your Vision of Confidence – Imagine being the woman you want to be! Clarifying and visualizing what being a confident woman ideally means to you and embodying the qualities of a woman you most admire.

    Creating Confident and Loving Self-Talk – Loving yourself! Improving self-esteem and self-worth by transmuting negative self-talk and replacing it with empowering beliefs about yourself your unique purpose in life to create confidence that begins on the inside.

    Living Confidently – Acting confidently and living your dreams today! Taking simple and powerful steps in your daily life that will improve your mindset and quality of life – and allow you to stop playing small and live with confidence.

    Whether you want to go after a dream, nail a job interview, or date with ease and joy to attract the relationship you desire…

    By the end of Confidence For Women you will have an action plan for pursuing your purpose and the confidence to do it!

    Get Confidence For Women for only $9.99 (regularly $40) here!


All courses have a 30-day money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied for any reason.

Deliberate Soulmate Attraction Coaching Session…On Me!

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could have a deliberate attraction coaching session with me, fully focused on you and no time spent telling you about my coaching packages, but have someone else pay for it?


Well, you can…yay!


You see I would LOVE your thoughts about online course sites and taking online courses for personal development and self growth.


So anyone that completes my current survey by Friday 2/16 at 6pm PST will be entered to win 1 of 3 complimentary deliberate attraction coaching sessions with me ($125 value), plus one winner will also get a $25 Amazon gift card.


The survey is only 10 questions and should take an average of 3 minutes to complete. Your email will be entered and selected by random drawing (by a randomizer website) to win. The prizes are:


1 winner will get a $25 Amazon gift card plus a complimentary deliberate attraction session.


2 winners will get a complimentary deliberate attraction session.


A session will be treated just like you paid in full, totally focused on you so you get the coaching you need in that time. A recording of the session for your use will be included for you.


Entries must be received by 2/16 at 6pm PST. Winners will be notified on Monday 2/19.


So if you have a few minutes, please take the survey on online course sites here >>> https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/75P3GVC


Thank you so much and I look forward to your responses…


Dina Robison

6 Ways To Attract Your Soul Mate & 5 Ways To Shift Into Love


Hi everyone!  For those of you that are still following my blog on this site I wanted to let you know that we moved a while back to http://dinarobison.com/

Please check it out – if you sign up to receive my newsletter you will receive two FREE 30 minute audios:

Six Ways To Begin Deliberately Attracting Your Soul Mate Now – Where I share my personal journey from what I thought was forever single-hood to soul mate partnership and the six things that helped me attract the one.  The right one.


Five Ways To Shift Into the Love You Want – This is a free talk I gave only for my community about five simple tricks to harness the Law of Attraction and shift into the love energy you want.  It’s actually way easier than you may think!

So please hop on over to http://dinarobison.com/ and accept my free gifts to you and catch up on the latest articles!



How Deliberate Attraction Helps You Attract a Soul Mate Relationship and Some Good Summer Reads

In an earlier post I highlighted some of the differences between the usual type of attraction and attracting deliberately.  The name “deliberate attraction” is inspired by law of attraction experts’, Abraham-Hicks, use of the words “deliberate – creating, intent, etc.) in their works; which basically means, in my words, that we have the power to make choices in our lives in alignment with our highest good and highest wisdom at all times by tuning in to our feelings.  The good, internal feelings (not to be confused with bliss or a temporary high) are what we are going for – they are an indication of what’s in alignment with our soul.

When deliberately attracting a soul mate relationship you, to quote another huge inspiration Stephen Covey, “Begin with the end in mind.”  More on Covey later.


1) Begin by with the end in mind by first asking yourself what soul qualities you want to express in your life; i.e., unconditional love, service, charity, honesty, devotion to God.  (For more info on soul qualities I highly recommend the Sanaya Roman books Soul Love and Creating Money, too.)

2) Then ask yourself what values are important to you in your life; i.e., family, living healthfully, joyful employment, spiritual community, having fun.

3) Next ask yourself how these soul qualities and values present themselves in your personality or energy; i.e., an honest person, communicative, smiles and laughs a lot, physically affectionate.

4) Lastly, you ask yourself what this looks like in the physical world; i.e., wants to have children, physically fit/exercises, what area you want to live in, what church if any you belong to, whether you travel or not, etc.

This, because it’s a true representation of who you really are at the soul level, will very closely match your soul mate.  You attract what you are sending out, so when you live from this place you will attract a mate that has the qualities most important to you.  Personally, I attracted my husband into my life after I began living authentically from my soul self and released a lot of old patterns and beliefs that weren’t truly expressing who I was.

So have you noticed the main difference between regular ol’ attraction and deliberate attraction? 

It’s a big paradigm shift.  It’s the reverse order of what we’re used to about standard attraction – which is usually to see, chat, feel chemistry, get to know someone and hope for the best in the long run.  Based on my experience and on the examples of people I know in fantastic partnerships, (though there may be exceptions to this and God bless you that are) attracting deliberately is more often effective for bringing in that long-term love that your soul truly desires and thrives in.

I’ll close with a detailed description of Highly Effective Habit #2: Begin with the end in mind as written on Stephen Covey’s website.

“So, what do you want to be when you grow up? That question may appear a little trite, but think about it for a moment. Are you–right now–who you want to be, what you dreamed you’d be, doing what you always wanted to do? Be honest. Sometimes people find themselves achieving victories that are empty–successes that have come at the expense of things that were far more valuable to them. If your ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step you take gets you to the wrong place faster.

Habit 2 is based on imagination–the ability to envision in your mind what you cannot at present see with your eyes. It is based on the principle that all things are created twice. There is a mental (first) creation, and a physical (second) creation. The physical creation follows the mental, just as a building follows a blueprint. If you don’t make a conscious effort to visualize who you are and what you want in life, then you empower other people and circumstances to shape you and your life by default. It’s about connecting again with your own uniqueness and then defining the personal, moral, and ethical guidelines within which you can most happily express and fulfill yourself. Begin with the End in Mind means to begin each day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then continue by flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen.

One of the best ways to incorporate Habit 2 into your life is to develop a Personal Mission Statement. It focuses on what you want to be and do. It is your plan for success. It reaffirms who you are, puts your goals in focus, and moves your ideas into the real world. Your mission statement makes you the leader of your own life. You create your own destiny and secure the future you envision.”


Book recommendations:  Anything by Abraham-Hicks, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey, Soul Love and Creating Money by Sanaya Roman.

Some soul love food for thought and great reads to begin your summer!

Lots of Love,