In 2005 I went to see a movie (I just realized this is my third post in a row beginning like this) that was a big budget, action/fantasy based on a graphic novel. There’s something about seeing a movie in the theater, super-sized on the screen with full surround sound that makes is so effective and, well, real.
Unfortunately in this film targeted to young males, the women were not represented in a very encouraging way. All the female characters, except one, were prostitutes or a stripper that appeared between the ages of 18 to 25. The one female character that wasn’t a prostitute was a cop (encouraging)…and she bared her breasts (not encouraging). All the male characters (also killer/assassin types) appeared between the ages of 40 and 50 and were very grungy looking types compared to the innocent prettiness of the females.
Watching this film was, surprisingly, the first time it really hit me that women are sadly misrepresented in popular entertainment and that I really felt the negativity and heaviness of the women in that film. It was the first time a film affected me energetically like that. Over the years I’ve noticed more and more how women are portrayed grossly…
Sassy, independent gals that sleep with guy after guy in just about every episode in an effort to find true love. The beautiful super heroine who kills without blinking but says that love is for children. The romantic prostitute that finds her prince charming after he hires her for her services. I’ll stop here, you get the picture. And I haven’t watched very much popular entertainment in the last few years – currently there are more and more romantic comedies featuring the female lead as only wanting something casual, love not coming in to the equation until the very end.
In these instances, and in many other examples in entertainment, females are represented as being only worthwhile for sexual pleasure or violence and being totally heartless. And being that watching entertainment can be such a powerful experience, these images can really affect the energy of viewers. Myself and a lot of women have at some point taken on, unknowingly, the energy and traits of these types of characters.
** On a side note, if you think I’m exaggerating I recently attended a talk about sex trafficking and the speaker, who works with rehabilitating girls after prostitution, said that many of the girls actually believe the Pretty Woman fantasy that they will meet their rich, prince Charming that way.
So how does all of this affect you, who wants to attract and meet the love of your life? Well, if you take on the energy of the entertainment you watch it may affect you (along with watching male characters) by energetically changing the way you show up in your relationships with men. Some instances based on the examples above: taking on an overly sexual energy before establishing love in a relationship, behaving cold in an effort to be more appealing, or basically being a doormat in the name of love while the desired guy finally decides he wants to be with you. This kind of energy can create an imbalance- too strong of masculine characteristics with very little feminine. A divine female has a balance of both the masculine and the feminine. She’s strong but has an open, loving heart.
What kind of energy do you want in your long-term partnership? Do you want to be anything other than your self in your relationship? How do you want to be and be loved in your relationship?
As with male characters – find examples of females that are like how you want to be in love and life. Look for the energy of a woman that is balanced in both her feminine and masculine traits. She’s strong in the positive difference she’s making in the world but has an open heart to fully love her man and her family unconditionally. Look for women that are where you want to be, and take on their energy!
Who are you favorite, inspiring female characters in entertainment? I’m always looking for good recommendations for uplifting movies or television shows, so please let me know if you got any.
Next week, my last article on this topic – the couples we see in entertainment and how that affects our relationships.