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How To Be the Beautiful Goddess That Attracts Her Soul Mate

“Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes.  It is not something physical.” ~ Sophia Loren

“When I go out now men are staring at me or engaging me in conversation!”  One of my clients said this to me after our session on embodying divine goddess energy a couple of weeks ago.  She discovered what her divine, feminine nature was and learned to merge with that energy.  As a result men are staring at her even when she goes to the store in her sweatpants and without make up.

Do you want to attract your soul mate but don’t feel beautiful enough to draw in the man that you really want?

As a woman I can honestly say that I’ve felt like this at times in the past and still struggle with this from time to time.  There probably aren’t too many women who haven’t had this feeling either at one time or ongoing.

But hey – they say that Cleopatra wasn’t a traditional beauty and didn’t look much like Elizabeth Taylor at all, but she is forever legendary for her power and goddess-like energy.  That somehow comforts me.  I read an article on the Huffington post about seven famous, and beautiful, actresses who were all told at some point in their careers that they weren’t pretty enough to make it.  Also comforting to know that beauty isn’t just about physical perfection and that it radiates from the inside out.

There are countless examples of women throughout time who weren’t perfect looking (who is really?) but are still radiantly beautiful.  They are beautiful because they are fully embodying their own goddess-like nature and are living from that energy.

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In the search for love you must learn to do the same as your ideal soul mate partner is drawn to your unique, goddess-like qualities – they are the perfect compliment to his masculine or warrior qualities (somehow saying his “God” qualities there seems inappropriate).

So how do you embody your individual goddess-like nature?

1) Write down your unique qualities both physical and non-physical.  Try not to judge what is right or wrong, an appealing quality or not.  All qualities have some benefit and a potential challenge to them – so there isn’t a good or bad.  Some examples could be:

–       Strong

–       Intelligent

–       Driven

–       Sensitive/emotional

–       Passionate

–       Athletic

–       Curvaceous

–       Lithe

–       Relaxed

–       Motivated

–       Truthful

–       Nurturing/Mothering

–       Helpful

–       Delicate

–       Innocent

And continue to list qualities that are uniquely present and important to you in your life (i.e., it helps you be successful in your career or makes you a great mom).

2) Find a symbol that reminds you of your unique energy.  This can be a picture or statue of a goddess or even a picture of a real woman, like a celebrity, that is living fully from that energy as well.  If you’re a creative type you can even draw her or write about her.  Just find someone that can be your continued inspiration.

3) When you feel you need a “beauty” boost – close your eyes, sit in meditation, and imagine invoking the energy of that woman goddess and merging with her.  If you chose Cleopatra, then literally imagine what it would be like to be living your life with her energy.  (But not her life, yikes.)  If you are preparing for a date, a job interview, a speech, a performance or anything – invoke her energy and merge with her.

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This can be a very powerful and life changing exercise to do regularly.  It has the power to change how you take care of yourself, how you eat, how you dress, how you interact with others, how you do anything.  It has the power to make you look and feel beautiful anytime.  It has the power to draw that one man to you who will absolutely adore you in all your beauty.  (Actually, it will probably draw many more to you but ideally you will just choose one.)

I hope you find this goddess invoking exercise fun and helpful.  What else do you do to embrace your own beauty?  Please comment below!

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With Love & Joy,

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Romancing with Deliberate Attraction versus Default Attraction

What is deliberate attraction?  The name is a reference to the Abraham-Hicks materials on Law of Attraction where they talk about the Law of Deliberate Creation.  You can watch a brief video with Esther Hicks talking about creating deliberately here.  In short, when we are intending to deliberately attract something into our lives we must first come into the feeling, energy, vibration or alignment of what it is that we truly want by focusing on what we want.

For example, when I was younger I wanted a man to come into my life and love me dearly and want to marry me.  I thought if I waited around long enough it would happen eventually.  The thought alone of my desire was not enough to make it happen. Truthfully, it was so out of alignment with my energy back then for many reasons; the idea of marriage scared me, I was fearful of getting hurt, I didn’t trust someone to be there for me and love me, and my heart was closed to giving and receiving love.  As a result, the relationships I was attracting by default were based in fear and neediness, which was just a reflection of my own energy at that time.  It never ended well needless to say.

This kind of default attraction is what most of us do in life because we weren’t taught to deliberately create our reality as a child.  There’s a lot of media (books, movies, TV, and dating advice columns) that encourages romance by default – like the notion of falling in love by locking eyes across a crowded room.  For the record, I do not recommend choosing anything, especially your life partner, by default attraction.  Default attraction happens when you haven’t thought in advance what you want in a relationship (it’s so important to know that) or what you value and are just “waiting” for the right one to come along, when you’re physically attracted to someone and just go for it, or just accept being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t treat you the way you would like.

And please don’t feel bad if you’ve done this.  I operated this way for most of my life and we are literally encouraged to act this way by popular entertainment.  If you’re feeling bad about it then know that is just your higher self telling you that it’s time to change and attract deliberately!

So in deliberate attraction, we clarify want we want and get into the good feeling space (or energy, vibration, etc.) of what it is we do want – not what we’re afraid of happening.  This can happen quickly or may take more time depending on the amount of negative energy someone has around what they desire.  What is the result of deliberately attracting our soul mate instead of mating by default?

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From my own personal experience I can honestly tell you that when I took deliberate charge of my love life, these were the results:

I had clarity and KNEW the type of man I would end up with in advance

It took the mystery and guessing games out of dating

I felt in charge and confident going on dates

I never felt pressured to have sex

I didn’t play into or focus on the undesirable behavior of anyone around me

I could be honest about what I wanted with others

I didn’t waste time with men that weren’t in alignment with me

The men I did meet, whether there was interest or not, respected me and were very nice

After only seven weeks of dating online with deliberate intent, I met the love of my life

Dating him felt good and was joyful

He is exactly the kind of man I deliberately wanted to draw into my life

Though we aren’t perfect people :), our marriage feels great and wonderful every day

Living deliberately in this way is a choice we can make every day with decisions big and small, beginning with our thoughts and intentions.  As strong women in this day and age it’s more important than ever to choose our love based on good feelings and that’s in alignment with our highest self, or God or Spirit.  Our partner must support the best woman we are capable of being.  Looking back I can’t believe I ever accepted less than that and I hope no woman feels she has to settle for less again.

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For now I’d love your comments – Which goals or achievements in your life do you feel you created deliberately?  How do you feel when you think of those things?

With my heart full of love,

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What’s Finding Love Got To Do With Impacting the World?

If someone had told me I would someday coach women who want to find their true love I would have laughed my heinie off!  I didn’t play with Barbies much growing up or dream of being a princess.  As an independent, strong woman with big dreams and worldly ideas it felt impossible for me to focus on finding love when I was younger.  I thought I didn’t need anything from anyone as I could take care of myself, thank you.  Besides, there just seemed to be more pressing matters in the world, like injustice and violence, that I needed to take a stand for and read about in obsessive detail before I did anything about trying to find my “soul mate,” if such a thing existed.

I believed there were more important things to do first.  Some of which I acted on, like beginning a yoga and meditation practice and becoming an instructor, and many things that just stayed in my head, like having a big acting career so I could then change the world.  For many reasons I believed that having an awesome dream career, impacting the world in a positive way, being strong and independent and being deeply spiritual came before being in a loving partnership.  What was I thinking?

Flash forward to now, and a whole lot of learning later, here’s why I know now that being in an ideal partnership (if that is what one truly wants) allows one to fully express her highest potential in all four of those areas mentioned above.

Dream Career – The support of your ideal partner can actually fuel your drive and inspiration for career and business and allow you to stay focused on it.  Dating while pursuing a career can be very distracting.  It can be hard to stay focused on a path while falling in and out of love.  For me, having the loving support of my husband has given me a strong foundation and even more motivation to create the career path ideal for myself and our family’s future.  Also, graciously receiving and giving love has opened up my heart to accepting and giving abundance in a way that was blocked before.

Positive Impact On the World – Okay, I don’t know what I was thinking back then because what impacts the world more positively than soul love, being an example of that soul love in partnership to others and raising children in a happy, loving family?  Moving on…

Being Strong and Independent – I used to think that having to be with someone was a sign of my weakness but now I see that having to be alone, while silently wanting to be with someone, actually isn’t strong and definitely not independent.  Being in the ideal relationship while maintaining your strength and independence and respecting that of your partner’s trumps being strong and independent alone.  The two strong, loving individuals become an interdependent force together.

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Being spiritual – Huh?  Being spiritual has nothing to do with any external forms – married or single, smart or simple, prosperous or poor, etc. – as we are all spirit, all the time.  If the desire for a love partnership has been put in to your heart, then God or Spirit (or whatever form of the Divine you prefer) has put it there for you to express it.  Our greatest spiritual growth comes from the lessons we receive in relationships.  Our greatest dedication to God comes from our partnerships, romantic or otherwise, being of service in this world.  I’m experiencing greater spirituality with the support of my husband helping me to grow daily.

Of course those are just my examples as to why I didn’t think it was necessary and even embarrassed to focus on love before.  Do you have any reasons for putting love off?  Across the board, any reason or excuse that delays you from living the life of your absolute dreams is just a fear-based belief that is not serving you.  We are here to live fearlessly and in our highest potential, all the time.

For the love and benefit of the entire world, get clear on your dreams and heart’s desires and live them!

What are your reasons for putting love off for later?  I’d love to read your comments.

With Love,

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