Warning: This is just another opinion, or philosophy, and may not necessarily be yours. As always, listen to your heart and be true to yourself. 🙂
There is a popular idea in personal growth with a huge following (and believe me I read and enjoyed the books, too) that may not be helping you manifest the love and life you really want. That idea is that you will be at peace if you just be in the NOW.
Don’t get me wrong, practicing being in the now is a very beneficial tool and practice. As a yogini, I use the tools of concentration and meditation on a daily basis to be present (which isn’t the same as being in the now, I’ll explain). Concentration and meditation has changed my life, calmed my emotions, and helped clear my mind. I intend to practice it for the rest of my life.
But can you realistically be in the now when you have had past heartbreaks and limiting beliefs created from them? Or can you be in the now when you make appointments, pay bills, and make choices for your future? We cannot live only in the now. The past and the future is always in our present, informing this moment. We are present when what we perceive as now is in total alignment with our past and our future. My coach likened this to an infinity symbol – the point in the middle being the present and the two loops representing the past and the future.
So assuming (and I have to assume because my analytical mind cannot grasp it) that this is true then everything that occurred in your past and everything you imagine for your future is determining exactly what you’re experiencing right now. This is mind-blowing to consider if you want to find the relationship of your dreams or manifest anything in your life. After all, if it’s in your dreams and it’s in your future – that must be where you’re headed, right?
So what can you do to align your past and future with what you want to experience presently?
– Use your imagination. Reframe and transmute energy from past relationship experiences into the energy you want to be in now. A few questions you might ask are, “How has this event made me the woman I am presently?” and “What do I really want now instead?” You can also re-write your relationship story to be the way you want it to be.
– Connect with your future self. Imagine how your life will be 5 years from now with your soul mate, and for the rest of your life. See yourself as an old woman having lived the purposeful life of your dreams. See how being with your ideal partner changed the life you have yet to live.
“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” – Albert Einstein
Do you question whether simply imaging something is effective or real? Then ask yourself, “Was there something that has happened in my life that was just a dream in my mind before?” I’m guessing yes. So dreaming and imagining has worked for you before. If all time is present then the very thoughts you have “now” are creating your reality – past, present and future. So be present with them all and let them represent the life and love that you want to have.
I’ll leave you with this quote from Anita Moorjani, who in her book Dying to Be Me details her near death experience and explains that our concept of time is simply an illusion.
“Since the tapestry of all time has already been woven, everything I could ever want to happen in my life already exists in that infinite, nonphysical plane. My only task is to expand my earthly self enough to let it into this realm. So if there’s something I desire, the idea isn’t to go out and get it, but to expand my own consciousness to allow universal energy to bring it into my reality here.” ― Anita Moorjani, Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing
With Love and Joy,
- 10 AMAZING LIFE LESSONS ALBERT EINSTEIN Wants You To Learn [VIDEO] (secretsofthefed.com)
- Thoughts Become Things (jamiereilly273.wordpress.com)
- 19 Motivational Quotes from Albert Einstein (lifehack.org)
- Book Review: “Dying to Be Me” by Anita Moorjani – How a near-death experience changed a woman’s outlook on life (sevenponds.com)