Last Monday my husband left a sweet note on my windshield while I was teaching a yoga class as he works nearby that site. I’m not posting this to brag and be all, “Hey everyone, see how amazing my husband is blah blah blah.” My real point here is to inspire you – in my youth (which was everything up to 35) I never thought I could have love like this. Actually I wasn’t even sure it existed. But in my heart I knew that that kind of love is what I wanted and needed in order to get married to someone. It had to be out there.
One day I just kind of woke up and realized that instead of focusing on all the evidence of me not being loved, having my heart broken, being disappointed, insulted, made fun of, stood up, etc. that I would instead to choose to focus my thoughts and energies on all the evidence and proof that I was loved and am lovable. I recalled the times my family and schoolmates were caring and sweet to me. I recalled when men were trying to express their love to me, but my eyes were closed to it. I woke up to all the evidence of love in my life NOW.
All it takes is a shift to be in the loving space you want and here are some ways to do that now:
1) Collect evidence of you loving and being loved in the past, and I don’t mean sexually, I mean words and actions of love. Think of any family members, friends, peers, co-workers, children, babies and animals (even plants!) that have shown you love. Love is everywhere. Honestly, I talk lovingly to my car and she shows me love by doing what she’s supposed to do well and safely.
2) See the proof of love around you, particularly if you’re looking for your soul mate, in other couples that have the kind of loving relationship you want. As much as possible only watch media with the kind of love you truly want, as it will reinforce your knowing that you are deserving of that love. Two of my personal favorites are Wally and the beginning of Up.
3) Bask in the feelings of that kind of love. As you become more accustomed to this feeling being the norm, the other stuff that isn’t what you want will just seem to go away at just the right time or it won’t draw your attention as much anymore. Your feelings are your guide and you’re here on this planet to feel good!
What evidence of love in your past or present are you basking in? I would love to read all about it in the comments below.
Love, love, love,