Let’s be real. You don’t need a man. You don’t need to be married or in a relationship. If there’s anything I hope you’ve gotten from my blog is that you are a whole, complete, and fulfilled woman just as you are. The reality is that you don’t need anything other than being who you are and just showing up to your life every day. In light of that you might be wondering why I joined the ranks of the married and am coaching women that want to do the same…
Because deliberate attraction is so much more than just attracting a partner. Deliberate attraction acknowledges that as women in this time of evolving world consciousness our life’s mission, whether in a relationship or not, means having so much more impact on the world than it did thirty, fifty, or a hundred or more years ago.
Last week I swore that I would not be another woman to quote this Dalai Lama statement but what the heck…
“The world will be saved by the western woman.”
This statement has set forth into motion thousands upon thousands of women (all over the world) coming forward in their relationships, businesses, and lives in a way that is bringing higher consciousness into everything we do individually and collectively. What does that have to do with finding your soul mate?
One of the biggest impacts we women can have on the world begins with us, being our divine selves, in our homes, creating and nurturing partnerships and families based on spiritual and uplifting love; this divine love spreads from our families to our neighbors, our schools, our businesses, our governments and across the entire planet. When this kind of love becomes the norm, or hits the tipping point, then all will truly be living peacefully and abundantly on this planet as we are meant to.
As a woman, no, you do not need a man. A man does not need a woman either. In this day and age we are quite independent of each other and can survive wonderfully with out a partner. I’ve been aware of this for years and actually used to get really embarrassed when people tried to set me up with someone or suggest I date or get married – at least for the reasons I figured they thought I should based on social expectation and need. I always had a “big picture” outlook and thought there were bigger and more important things to do in the world; dating and relationships honestly didn’t seem that crucial to me.
It wasn’t until I was about 35 that I came into alignment with my big WHY – why I wanted to be in partnership with my soul mate and why it means so much to me for my soul’s purpose here. Because that WHY was so meaningful to me, it inspired me to attract my partner and set the stage for the amazing, inspiring marriage I’m in now.
As intended when I first put forth why I wanted to marry my soul mate my marriage has helped me to grow in my capacity to love in ways where I was previously limited. My partnership has also given me the support and space to further my purpose, or one of my purposes, here in this lifetime – helping the world to love more while loving myself more. Also my spiritual practice has deepened and I’m enjoying life more fully than I had before by allowing my love to expand beyond myself.
Now that may not have anything to do with why you’re looking for a soul mate relationship. But my point is that our desire for a relationship at this point in evolution has to be so much more than just having companionship, having children, and having reliable physical affection. There is a new paradigm being called forth in love and your vision of an ideal relationship is leading the way to making the Dalai Lama’s statement about women saving the world a reality.
So then, what is your big WHY?
Why are you being called forth now to have the partnership you’ve always wanted?
What is the big picture reason for attracting and being with your soul mate?
In what ways will you expand with the support of your soul mate?
What will your life be like in your ideal partnership?
How is your ideal partnership in alignment with your purpose here on the planet?
Your answers to these questions are the new, emerging paradigm for love and relationships. And your vision of your partnership with your soul mate is changing the world for good.
Enjoy the journey but always be true to yourself and your big WHY.
Love and Peace,