A few weeks ago a friend mentioned to me that when she was a child watching the Flintstones, for some reason, made her sad. At first, I thought, that’s strange. Then she explained it’s because it always felt really intense to her, like everyone was mad at each other all of the time. Then I remembered that the Flintstones was the children’s equivalent to The Honeymooners. You know the – “One of these days, POW right in the kisser!” – Honeymooners. It makes perfect sense why the Flintstones would be sad for a child to see, and the Honeymooners sad for adults to see.
Over the years there have been countless sitcoms, films and even cartoons (!!) depicting couples as constantly bickering, complaining about and fighting with each other. Over the decades the fighting has evolved from threats of physical violence, to hysteric yelling, to nasty insults, and to now what seems to be childish rants against each other. I rarely watch television anymore but recently I watched a comedy show about a married couple only because a friend of mine was guest starring on it, unfortunately not until the very end. It was the last time I would watch it because the main stars (who I like as performers) were constantly hurling mean insults back and forth like 3rd graders (really mean ones that is) at a playground…for the duration. Somehow this is supposed to be funny.
As a kid that watched a lot of television growing up, I actually believed this to be the norm – which reminds me of Norm on Cheers, another man always displeased with his wife. These fictional characters were a big part of my energetic influence and I unknowingly took on the belief that men and women cannot be happy in marriage, or together at all. I took on the belief that men and women that cared about each other showed it by fighting with each other and insulting each other. Those beliefs resulted in my early relationships centering on verbal abuse and fighting.
Of course we can say that it’s just TV or a movie, it isn’t real, but doesn’t our mainstream entertainment “normalize” what we see? Everything is energy, so if we aren’t conscious can’t we easily take on the energy of our favorite entertainment? Similarly to what I mentioned in the posts about male and female characters, the character of the “couple” in media has gotten further and further away from the soul mate relationship that I, and I assume you if you’re reading this, want to be in.
So what can you do? Ask yourself what do you really want your relationship to be like? Not what you think you can or cannot have based on what you see, but what do you really want? Write it down. Talk it out with a friend. If you’re a creative type, write a story or a script on it.
What else is helpful to raise your energy to that of the relationship you desire? Change the channel. Shut off the TV. Seek out media with couples that are like the soul mate relationship you want to have (recently I enjoyed Date Night and Up). Support those that are making the kind of entertainment that is positively feeding your soul and your partnership.
There is a new paradigm for our partnerships that is coming forward now to be the norm. It isn’t that of our parents and grandparents who largely depended on each other in marriage. New partnerships are based on mutual respect, support, interdependence and love. Our partnership supports our spiritual growth individually and as a couple. I’ll even be so bold as to say this partnership supports the evolution of the collective consciousness and the entire planet.
The sooner that kind of partnership can be reflected in our entertainment, the sooner it can be reflected in partnerships across the globe.
What is your favorite couple in entertainment? I’m always on the look out for positive and uplifting shows to watch, so please let me know.