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How To Be the Beautiful Goddess That Attracts Her Soul Mate

“Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes.  It is not something physical.” ~ Sophia Loren

“When I go out now men are staring at me or engaging me in conversation!”  One of my clients said this to me after our session on embodying divine goddess energy a couple of weeks ago.  She discovered what her divine, feminine nature was and learned to merge with that energy.  As a result men are staring at her even when she goes to the store in her sweatpants and without make up.

Do you want to attract your soul mate but don’t feel beautiful enough to draw in the man that you really want?

As a woman I can honestly say that I’ve felt like this at times in the past and still struggle with this from time to time.  There probably aren’t too many women who haven’t had this feeling either at one time or ongoing.

But hey – they say that Cleopatra wasn’t a traditional beauty and didn’t look much like Elizabeth Taylor at all, but she is forever legendary for her power and goddess-like energy.  That somehow comforts me.  I read an article on the Huffington post about seven famous, and beautiful, actresses who were all told at some point in their careers that they weren’t pretty enough to make it.  Also comforting to know that beauty isn’t just about physical perfection and that it radiates from the inside out.

There are countless examples of women throughout time who weren’t perfect looking (who is really?) but are still radiantly beautiful.  They are beautiful because they are fully embodying their own goddess-like nature and are living from that energy.

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In the search for love you must learn to do the same as your ideal soul mate partner is drawn to your unique, goddess-like qualities – they are the perfect compliment to his masculine or warrior qualities (somehow saying his “God” qualities there seems inappropriate).

So how do you embody your individual goddess-like nature?

1) Write down your unique qualities both physical and non-physical.  Try not to judge what is right or wrong, an appealing quality or not.  All qualities have some benefit and a potential challenge to them – so there isn’t a good or bad.  Some examples could be:

–       Strong

–       Intelligent

–       Driven

–       Sensitive/emotional

–       Passionate

–       Athletic

–       Curvaceous

–       Lithe

–       Relaxed

–       Motivated

–       Truthful

–       Nurturing/Mothering

–       Helpful

–       Delicate

–       Innocent

And continue to list qualities that are uniquely present and important to you in your life (i.e., it helps you be successful in your career or makes you a great mom).

2) Find a symbol that reminds you of your unique energy.  This can be a picture or statue of a goddess or even a picture of a real woman, like a celebrity, that is living fully from that energy as well.  If you’re a creative type you can even draw her or write about her.  Just find someone that can be your continued inspiration.

3) When you feel you need a “beauty” boost – close your eyes, sit in meditation, and imagine invoking the energy of that woman goddess and merging with her.  If you chose Cleopatra, then literally imagine what it would be like to be living your life with her energy.  (But not her life, yikes.)  If you are preparing for a date, a job interview, a speech, a performance or anything – invoke her energy and merge with her.

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This can be a very powerful and life changing exercise to do regularly.  It has the power to change how you take care of yourself, how you eat, how you dress, how you interact with others, how you do anything.  It has the power to make you look and feel beautiful anytime.  It has the power to draw that one man to you who will absolutely adore you in all your beauty.  (Actually, it will probably draw many more to you but ideally you will just choose one.)

I hope you find this goddess invoking exercise fun and helpful.  What else do you do to embrace your own beauty?  Please comment below!

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With Love & Joy,

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This Popular Personal Growth Philosophy May Not Be Helping You Manifest Love Now

Warning: This is just another opinion, or philosophy, and may not necessarily be yours.  As always, listen to your heart and be true to yourself.  🙂

There is a popular idea in personal growth with a huge following (and believe me I read and enjoyed the books, too) that may not be helping you manifest the love and life you really want.  That idea is that you will be at peace if you just be in the NOW.

Don’t get me wrong, practicing being in the now is a very beneficial tool and practice.  As a yogini, I use the tools of concentration and meditation on a daily basis to be present (which isn’t the same as being in the now, I’ll explain).  Concentration and meditation has changed my life, calmed my emotions, and helped clear my mind.  I intend to practice it for the rest of my life.

But can you realistically be in the now when you have had past heartbreaks and limiting beliefs created from them?  Or can you be in the now when you make appointments, pay bills, and make choices for your future?  We cannot live only in the now.  The past and the future is always in our present, informing this moment.  We are present when what we perceive as now is in total alignment with our past and our future.  My coach likened this to an infinity symbol – the point in the middle being the present and the two loops representing the past and the future.

1125831_90405437“Time has no independent existence apart from the order of events by which we measure it.”  – Albert Einstein

So assuming (and I have to assume because my analytical mind cannot grasp it) that this is true then everything that occurred in your past and everything you imagine for your future is determining exactly what you’re experiencing right now.  This is mind-blowing to consider if you want to find the relationship of your dreams or manifest anything in your life.  After all, if it’s in your dreams and it’s in your future – that must be where you’re headed, right?

So what can you do to align your past and future with what you want to experience presently? 

–       Use your imagination.  Reframe and transmute energy from past relationship experiences into the energy you want to be in now.  A few questions you might ask are, “How has this event made me the woman I am presently?” and “What do I really want now instead?” You can also re-write your relationship story to be the way you want it to be.

–       Connect with your future self.  Imagine how your life will be 5 years from now with your soul mate, and for the rest of your life.  See yourself as an old woman having lived the purposeful life of your dreams.  See how being with your ideal partner changed the life you have yet to live.

“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” – Albert Einstein

Do you question whether simply imaging something is effective or real?  Then ask yourself, “Was there something that has happened in my life that was just a dream in my mind before?”  I’m guessing yes.  So dreaming and imagining has worked for you before.  If all time is present then the very thoughts you have “now” are creating your reality – past, present and future.  So be present with them all and let them represent the life and love that you want to have.

I’ll leave you with this quote from Anita Moorjani, who in her book Dying to Be Me details her near death experience and explains that our concept of time is simply an illusion.

“Since the tapestry of all time has already been woven, everything I could ever want to happen in my life already exists in that infinite, nonphysical plane. My only task is to expand my earthly self enough to let it into this realm. So if there’s something I desire, the idea isn’t to go out and get it, but to expand my own consciousness to allow universal energy to bring it into my reality here.”Anita Moorjani, Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing

With Love and Joy,

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The Catch 22 of Being an Independent Woman

I’m an independent and strong woman and all of my life have admired women and female characters that aren’t afraid to be alone and can take care of themselves.  Those are beautiful qualities for anyone to have and I do believe it’s essential to know how to be alone and happy before attempting to be happy in a relationship with another.

However, after over 33 years of living my strong-willed and independent life, I wondered why I was still alone.  Actually, I didn’t wonder very long because it became blatantly obvious that I had cultivated the idea, energy and feeling of being independent, strong and alone for so long that I didn’t know how to live any other way.

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In all of my years of living, dating and being in relationships (romantic or otherwise) I never learned how to receive from, ask for help from, trust in, and share with another person.  It was something I thought I’d never have to do but in order to be in the relationship of my dreams I knew I had to cultivate to these qualities and feelings – and learn to enjoy them.  If I wanted a partner that had these qualities then I needed to be this way, too.

Does this sound familiar to you?  Can you relate to this?

It took a couple of years of inner work and some discomfort with the change, but now I’m in the marriage of my dreams.  We share a home, a bank account and a name amongst other things.  We constantly give and receive from each other.  We trust each other.  We are open with each other.  And I feel good about it and wouldn’t want it any other way.  I’m able to be in this kind of relationship now because of the work I did with myself before we even met.

If you know what I’m talking about and still long to be in the relationship of your dreams, then begin cultivating your feminine receptive qualities now. 

Practice a breathing meditation on being able to give and receive detailed here.

Notice and appreciate anything that others do for you, even if it’s at first just the person that makes your coffee.

Say thank you.

Ask someone for something (people love being able to help).

Ask the Universe or God for something (Source loves being able to help).

Gladly accept help.

If someone has been upsetting you and you haven’t told him or her, kindly say how you feel and ask for what you need instead.

Become aware of your inherent needs, ask for and expect them to be met.

As you begin to vibrate in this receptive place and bring this into balance with your strong, independent qualities you will become aware of all the love and support you have around you in your life and more ready to receive it.

Both your strong and receptive qualities are amazing and beautiful.  Having both allows a partner to come into your life that has both qualities as well.

Do you need help implementing these qualities to find balance in your life?  I’d be more than happy to give you a free 30-minute clarity coaching session to do just that (really, I’m very happy to do it).  Please contact me at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com.

With Love,

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Are You Giving Too Much In Relationships?

Do you find yourself doing everything, or mostly everything, in your romantic relationships?  Does dating or being in a relationship leave you feeling drained?  If you answered yes, I can totally relate!  That was my experience, too, years ago.  What began as exciting and fun would eventually leave me feeling drained and ill.  By the age of 33 I knew I had to make a change about the way I was being in romantic relationships or I would never be happy and healthy in them.

Over the next few years I discovered a very interesting imbalance in myself that was causing this repeated pattern in my life – I love giving but I really struggled with being able to receive.  From a young age I prided myself on being strong and independent and able to take care of myself.

Just to be clear, these are great qualities to have – if they are in balance with some softer and more feminine qualities.  When it came to someone buying me dinner, surprising me with flowers, saying “I love you” to me, or even talk about providing a home for me – I would feel guilty, like I was taking something away, or fearful that I would owe him something.  I just couldn’t accept what was being offered with appreciation and gratitude. The result?  I scared off the loving and giving guys that really wanted to support me, and attracted the opposite.

A relationship, of any kind, is a two way street.  If someone is giving, someone has to receive it, too.  Personally, I love to give.  It feels great to have my gift accepted.  When it isn’t accepted graciously (or at least with a gracious “no, thank you”) it feels yucky.  What I’ve finally come to realize over these last few years is that other people love to give, too.  It makes people happy to know that what they are doing is appreciated – especially, in romantic relationships.  This realization has allowed me to graciously accept the love and generosity given to me in all kinds of relationships, and has allowed me to finally attract a man that loves to support and give to me as I love to support and give to him.

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The energy exchange of giving and receiving is like breathing.  It’s cyclical just like the inhalation and the exhalation.  If you only exhale then you don’t have any breath to keep exhaling with.  If you only inhale then you don’t have space to take in any more oxygen.  Without continuously doing both, you die.  It’s the same with the energy of a relationship – without the back and forth flowing energy of giving and receiving the relationship will wither.

Here’s a simple breathing and mantra meditation that helped me with the ability to receive:

Sit comfortably with an elongated spine and begin by just focusing on your breathing.  Take in a full inhalation allowing the rib cage and abdomen to expand and a full exhalation allowing all the air out of the lungs.  Continue in this way and notice your breathing slow down and becoming fuller and deeper.

On the inhalation silently say the mantra – I open myself fully to receive love.

On the exhalation silently say the mantra – I open myself fully to give love.

Continue for as long as you like.  Gradually you can shorten the mantras to be just “receive and give,” or release the mantras altogether and just be in the feeling space of receiving and giving. 

Learning to receive as much I give allowed me to have great relationships with my family and friends, become totally debt free, and to attract a partnership that leaves me feeling energized and inspired.  My deepest desire is that you attract a partnership that does the same for you.

I hope you find this meditation helpful to you!  I’m here to help and guide you on your journey, if you are interested in a free 30 minute clarity session with me please contact me at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com.

I’d like to hear from you, in what ways and areas of your life would you like to be to able to receive more?  Please leave your comments!

With Love,

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Five Minutes a Day to Break Unhelpful Patterns in Love and Life

Have you ever just woken up one day to realize that your love relationships had a similar thread or pattern amongst them?  Maybe each person seemed different in the beginning, but as time went on and you got to know each other it’s almost like they were the same person wearing a different body?

One day, a while ago, that was me.  I was actually pretty embarrassed to realize that I, the strong and independent woman that I was, seemingly had no control over the person I was choosing (or not choosing) to be with.  It was at that time that I fully decided and committed to making the changes in myself that I needed to make in order to deliberately attract the man of my dreams and have the love I truly desired.

Up until that point for most of my life I had been acting and reacting with my default beliefs and desires, not with my inner wisdom.  So in order to get in touch with this wisdom I took up a daily meditation practice…well, again.  I had been an on and off meditator for years but for the first time was making it a daily priority as important as eating breakfast.  Every morning I would wake up and meditate anywhere from five to thirty minutes.  The amount of time wasn’t as important as the consistency of doing it every day.  Hey, it worked for Elizabeth Gilbert in Eat, Pray, Love, and I’m a yoga instructor for goodness sake – the least I should be doing is meditation! 694865_96636417

You probably can guess what happened…  I became generally calmer, didn’t get bothered by little things, and felt more confident and peaceful and in control of my life just to name a few benefits.  But most importantly I began to take actions based on my highest wisdom and self.  It seemed like life, or God, or the Universe was cooperating for my highest good.  I saw the blessing in my prior heartbreaks, didn’t get tempted to jump into anything too quickly with someone who might not be perfect for me, and I just had the faith that my soul mate was on his way to me.

Be deliberate about your life.  Go for it.  Five minutes.

Daily meditation, for any amount of time, is the first step to being a deliberate creator in your love life (and whole life).  It breaks the patterns, it gets you out of your head, it makes you aware of any limiting thoughts that are blocking love, it gives you back the power and intuition to decide what is for your highest and greatest good, and puts you in touch with what your soul truly desires for your life.

If you need any more reasons you can read all about 100 benefits of meditation here. 

To start:

1)    Find a quiet place where you can sit up comfortably.

2)    Close your eyes and take some slow, deep breaths.

3)    Breathe naturally and allow your focus to go entirely onto your breathing.

4)    If your mind wanders, no big deal, just bring it back to your breathing.

5)    Continue this until you feel pretty comfortable in the silence, then you can let go of the focus on the breath and just be in that good feeling place for as long as you want.

6)    That’s all – when you feel complete with it consciously open your eyes and ride that feeling in to the rest of your day.

You can use different meditations for all kinds of purposes, adding visualizations and affirmations, depending on your intention and desire (like breathing in “I receive love” and breathing out “I give love” to expand your ability to give and receive love) – but as a deliberate creator you will benefit greatly even from just sitting in silence for some time everyday.

My program has several guided meditations to help you on your journey to attracting soul love.  If you’d like to know more about my Deliberate Attraction sessions and program, please visit this page. 

I hope you find your daily meditation very helpful, please let me know how it’s benefiting you!

Love and Peace,

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