A few weeks ago I saw the #1 comedy in America in the theater, which I won’t bother to name. It had a few funny moments and featured some talented actors – the point of this article isn’t to bash the movie, I knew what I was getting into. But I left the theater feeling grossed out and sad about the vision of what it means to be a man that a movie like that sends to both female and male viewers. This vision is of a man that does drugs (a LOT), plays video games all day, speaks in sexual innuendos (a LOT), and only mentions women in the context of pornography or rape – both of which are not funny in the slightest.
This got me thinking about other prominent male characters in mass entertainment: the good looking but totally ruthless and emotionless assassin, the hunky player that “changes” for the girl next door, the mysterious super hero that fights and kills bad guys who usually likes a girl but he can never be around, the “messed up” guy that’s getting over his issues, and the profanity blazing and drug using but lovable oaf type (he also might change for a girl).
Everything is energy. What we see, hear, taste, touch, smell, and sense is energy that we are taking in and that is affecting our thoughts and beliefs. Our thoughts and beliefs affect our feelings, which then affects what energy we are being/living and radiating out. Because the law of attraction is always working that energy brings to us in our physical world things that match that energy. Do you see where I’m going with this?
So if you continuously see images of men in entertainment (and I love going to the movies, too, so this was a challenge for me) that are mean, violent, crude, sick, a total player, and downright disrespectful to women – and most popular movies nowadays feature such men – then it will affect your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and energy towards men and relationships. But you have the choice to believe and think what you want about men and relationships.
So what can you do?
1) Look for images of men that represent the type of man you would want to marry. The type of man that you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with. The type of man that cares about you and cares about the world. The type of man that loves children and would never hurt anyone. Okay, I’ll move on before I get too excited myself here….
What qualities do you want in YOUR man?
2) Focus your attention on those qualities as you find evidence of them. Notice men like him in movies, books, pictures, and in real life, of course. What you focus on expands.
How do you want to feel in your relationship?
3) Look for entertainment that gives you the good feelings you want in your life. Notice how you feel when you do watch a male character. If it doesn’t feel good to you, recognize that it’s just entertainment and not reality. Look for movies and shows featuring males with good qualities that you love. My husband and I are always looking for more positive and uplifting movies and shows to watch, and more and more are being produced thanks to great organizations like the Global Alliance for Transformational Entertainment.
Don’t let someone else’s idea of entertainment define your relationship story. You get to write your own story. And if you come across any great movies or shows that are uplifting and positive, please let me know by commenting or at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com. I’m always on the look out for them!
Next week – How the Women You See in Entertainment Affects Whom You Attract 🙂 Until then…
With Love & Light,