“I Refuse To Settle In a Relationship.”
That’s a phrase I repeatedly hear from clients, women I know, and even myself once upon a time.
Of course, no one wants to settle in order to be in a relationship. But the more appropriate question to ask is: How do you know if you are settling?
What seems to happen is that when people think they aren’t settling in their relationship, they actually are.
Sure, they may have had fireworks, chemistry, and attraction in the beginning only to discover that over time they are subtly — and not so subtly — mistreated by their partner. And actually ended up settling for less just to maintain a fraction of the excitement that was present in the beginning.
In my latest blog post, 10 Signs You’re Settling In Your Relationship, I list the casual ways that many settle for less in their relationships while telling themselves they aren’t.
Are you settling for less in love?