Date Deliberately and Avoid the Narcissist For Good
There’s a name for that guy that seemingly has his act together, is so fun, so charismatic, and hot, but doesn’t reveal his unavailability until he’s left you heartbroken and confused. He’s a narcissist.
And it isn’t that he loves himself, it’s that he’s created an over-inflated image of himself to compensate for something broken in him – like wounding from his childhood.
So what does that mean for you in a relationship with him?
It means it’s all about HIM. His “love” for you is all about what you are doing for him in this moment. For example, you could be his distraction from reality, his avoidance of being alone, his intimate satisfaction, or his trophy to appear complete to the others in his life.
But it isn’t about love. As a matter of fact, as soon as he doesn’t need what you’re providing him any more he will disappear.
A narcissist has mastered the art of charming others and faking love by love bombing in the beginning before his true colors start showing. He relies on this act to get a woman because he doesn’t know how to love from his heart and provide lasting value, as it’s all about him.
Some of the most common benefits narcissists initially give women are:
…And probably hundreds more.
So how can you be prepared when you’re dating to not fall for a narcissist again? How do you know if the qualities he’s presenting are real or just manifestations of his problem?
This is what I ask all of my clients that have a pattern of dating narcissists to do:
List all of the qualities that they loved about their exes.
Then honestly ask themselves, “If I didn’t need to have those qualities present to love someone, then what would I be attracted to instead?”
The answer to that question reveals your soulmate. What’s left over after the outward mask is dropped is who your soulmate partner really is. And what’s illuminated is your heart just open to pure love over external satisfaction.
This weekend I challenge you to sit down and quietly journal on those questions.
What was revealed to you? Were you surprised by anything? How will this change the way you date and get to know others?
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Deliberately Attract Your Soulmate
“I am really loving your program, visualizations – especially the
future vision of seeing your partner.. It is really one of my favorite
programs that I have done!” Tali, course student
Module 1: Getting To Know What Love Is
Find out your true soul’s expression of love and believe that it’s not only possible but that you will never settle for less again. 4 lessons and 1 guided meditation.
Module 2: Transmuting Energy Blocking Love
Transforming energy from past romantic or family relationships into a powerful force that will draw love to you. 4 lessons.
Module 3: Forgiving and Releasing Ties To the Past
Free your heart from painful ties to past romantic or family relationships so you can trust and love again. 3 lesson and 2 guided meditations.
Module 4: Evolving Agreements and Hidden Personalities
Evolve any unconscious agreements or parts of you blocking love into energy that will help you get the love you want. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.
Module 5: The Divine Feminine In You
Discovering and merging with the most radiant and dynamic goddess within you. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.
Module 6: Loving Yourself To Love Another
Turn any negative self talk around into truly appreciating and loving your unique gifts, so your soul mate can, too. 4 lessons.
Module 7: Knowing the Essence of Your Soul Mate Partnership
Connecting with the energy and deep values of your soul mate partnership so you never settle for less-than again. 2 lessons and 1 guided meditation.
Module 8: Recognizing Your Soul Mate In Person
Discovering and becoming very clear about the qualities of your soul mate and your future life together to attract just the right person for you. 3 lessons and 1 guided meditation.
Module 9: Manifesting Your Soul Mate With Inspired Action
Creating a deliberate action plan with simple steps you can take now to meet your soul mate. 3 lessons.
Plus You Will Get:
Downloadable mp3s of 7 guided meditations, worksheets for each module, a bonus Q & A section with common questions asked about the course and dating, and ongoing online support from me personally!
Dating Deliberately To Attract the One
“The material is easily presented, straight and to the point. Really helps someone who wants to know how to apply clarity and direction to focusing their dating life know how to do it! To learn from past relationship mistakes and move on.” Holli
What You Will Get:
Module 1: Clarity and Focus To Magnetize Your Soul Mate
Become crystal clear and focused on your soul mate and the partnership you want to attract now. Get a glimpse into your ideal future life together and begin to create the vision of the life you want.
Module 2: Turning Limiting Beliefs and Fears Into Love Magnets
Learn the key factor to making the law of attraction and affirmations work for you. Turn limiting beliefs into empowerment and tap into your inner confidence for dating success.
Module 3: Dating Deliberately With Confidence and Joy
Create a deliberate action plan for meeting your soul mate and to date with ease. Plus, an online dating crash course for cutting through the b.s. and meeting your soul mate without wasting time.
Plus You Will Get:
3 Guided Meditation mp3s
The Dating Deliberately Workbook
A Bonus Q & A Section
Ongoing Online Support From Me Personally
Confidence For Women: Inner Radiance For Living Your Purpose
Naturally and effectively improve your personal and professional confidence and self-esteem with the simple, yet powerful, exercises in this course.
These techniques use your imagination to change your mindset and creatively apply the methods of a confident, self-loving, and successful woman – so results are effective and noticeable.
Your Vision of Confidence – Imagine being the woman you want to be! Clarifying and visualizing what being a confident woman ideally means to you and embodying the qualities of a woman you most admire.
Creating Confident and Loving Self-Talk – Loving yourself! Improving self-esteem and self-worth by transmuting negative self-talk and replacing it with empowering beliefs about yourself your unique purpose in life to create confidence that begins on the inside.
Living Confidently – Acting confidently and living your dreams today! Taking simple and powerful steps in your daily life that will improve your mindset and quality of life – and allow you to stop playing small and live with confidence.
Whether you want to go after a dream, nail a job interview, or date with ease and joy to attract the relationship you desire…
By the end of Confidence For Women you will have an action plan for pursuing your purpose and the confidence to do it!
All courses have a 30-day money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied for any reason.