If someone had told me I would someday coach women who want to find their true love I would have laughed my heinie off! I didn’t play with Barbies much growing up or dream of being a princess. As an independent, strong woman with big dreams and worldly ideas it felt impossible for me to focus on finding love when I was younger. I thought I didn’t need anything from anyone as I could take care of myself, thank you. Besides, there just seemed to be more pressing matters in the world, like injustice and violence, that I needed to take a stand for and read about in obsessive detail before I did anything about trying to find my “soul mate,” if such a thing existed.
I believed there were more important things to do first. Some of which I acted on, like beginning a yoga and meditation practice and becoming an instructor, and many things that just stayed in my head, like having a big acting career so I could then change the world. For many reasons I believed that having an awesome dream career, impacting the world in a positive way, being strong and independent and being deeply spiritual came before being in a loving partnership. What was I thinking?
Flash forward to now, and a whole lot of learning later, here’s why I know now that being in an ideal partnership (if that is what one truly wants) allows one to fully express her highest potential in all four of those areas mentioned above.
Dream Career – The support of your ideal partner can actually fuel your drive and inspiration for career and business and allow you to stay focused on it. Dating while pursuing a career can be very distracting. It can be hard to stay focused on a path while falling in and out of love. For me, having the loving support of my husband has given me a strong foundation and even more motivation to create the career path ideal for myself and our family’s future. Also, graciously receiving and giving love has opened up my heart to accepting and giving abundance in a way that was blocked before.
Positive Impact On the World – Okay, I don’t know what I was thinking back then because what impacts the world more positively than soul love, being an example of that soul love in partnership to others and raising children in a happy, loving family? Moving on…
Being Strong and Independent – I used to think that having to be with someone was a sign of my weakness but now I see that having to be alone, while silently wanting to be with someone, actually isn’t strong and definitely not independent. Being in the ideal relationship while maintaining your strength and independence and respecting that of your partner’s trumps being strong and independent alone. The two strong, loving individuals become an interdependent force together.
Being spiritual – Huh? Being spiritual has nothing to do with any external forms – married or single, smart or simple, prosperous or poor, etc. – as we are all spirit, all the time. If the desire for a love partnership has been put in to your heart, then God or Spirit (or whatever form of the Divine you prefer) has put it there for you to express it. Our greatest spiritual growth comes from the lessons we receive in relationships. Our greatest dedication to God comes from our partnerships, romantic or otherwise, being of service in this world. I’m experiencing greater spirituality with the support of my husband helping me to grow daily.
Of course those are just my examples as to why I didn’t think it was necessary and even embarrassed to focus on love before. Do you have any reasons for putting love off? Across the board, any reason or excuse that delays you from living the life of your absolute dreams is just a fear-based belief that is not serving you. We are here to live fearlessly and in our highest potential, all the time.
For the love and benefit of the entire world, get clear on your dreams and heart’s desires and live them!
What are your reasons for putting love off for later? I’d love to read your comments.