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How Deliberate Attraction Helps You Attract a Soul Mate Relationship and Some Good Summer Reads

In an earlier post I highlighted some of the differences between the usual type of attraction and attracting deliberately.  The name “deliberate attraction” is inspired by law of attraction experts’, Abraham-Hicks, use of the words “deliberate – creating, intent, etc.) in their works; which basically means, in my words, that we have the power to make choices in our lives in alignment with our highest good and highest wisdom at all times by tuning in to our feelings.  The good, internal feelings (not to be confused with bliss or a temporary high) are what we are going for – they are an indication of what’s in alignment with our soul.

When deliberately attracting a soul mate relationship you, to quote another huge inspiration Stephen Covey, “Begin with the end in mind.”  More on Covey later.


1) Begin by with the end in mind by first asking yourself what soul qualities you want to express in your life; i.e., unconditional love, service, charity, honesty, devotion to God.  (For more info on soul qualities I highly recommend the Sanaya Roman books Soul Love and Creating Money, too.)

2) Then ask yourself what values are important to you in your life; i.e., family, living healthfully, joyful employment, spiritual community, having fun.

3) Next ask yourself how these soul qualities and values present themselves in your personality or energy; i.e., an honest person, communicative, smiles and laughs a lot, physically affectionate.

4) Lastly, you ask yourself what this looks like in the physical world; i.e., wants to have children, physically fit/exercises, what area you want to live in, what church if any you belong to, whether you travel or not, etc.

This, because it’s a true representation of who you really are at the soul level, will very closely match your soul mate.  You attract what you are sending out, so when you live from this place you will attract a mate that has the qualities most important to you.  Personally, I attracted my husband into my life after I began living authentically from my soul self and released a lot of old patterns and beliefs that weren’t truly expressing who I was.

So have you noticed the main difference between regular ol’ attraction and deliberate attraction? 

It’s a big paradigm shift.  It’s the reverse order of what we’re used to about standard attraction – which is usually to see, chat, feel chemistry, get to know someone and hope for the best in the long run.  Based on my experience and on the examples of people I know in fantastic partnerships, (though there may be exceptions to this and God bless you that are) attracting deliberately is more often effective for bringing in that long-term love that your soul truly desires and thrives in.

I’ll close with a detailed description of Highly Effective Habit #2: Begin with the end in mind as written on Stephen Covey’s website.

“So, what do you want to be when you grow up? That question may appear a little trite, but think about it for a moment. Are you–right now–who you want to be, what you dreamed you’d be, doing what you always wanted to do? Be honest. Sometimes people find themselves achieving victories that are empty–successes that have come at the expense of things that were far more valuable to them. If your ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step you take gets you to the wrong place faster.

Habit 2 is based on imagination–the ability to envision in your mind what you cannot at present see with your eyes. It is based on the principle that all things are created twice. There is a mental (first) creation, and a physical (second) creation. The physical creation follows the mental, just as a building follows a blueprint. If you don’t make a conscious effort to visualize who you are and what you want in life, then you empower other people and circumstances to shape you and your life by default. It’s about connecting again with your own uniqueness and then defining the personal, moral, and ethical guidelines within which you can most happily express and fulfill yourself. Begin with the End in Mind means to begin each day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then continue by flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen.

One of the best ways to incorporate Habit 2 into your life is to develop a Personal Mission Statement. It focuses on what you want to be and do. It is your plan for success. It reaffirms who you are, puts your goals in focus, and moves your ideas into the real world. Your mission statement makes you the leader of your own life. You create your own destiny and secure the future you envision.”


Book recommendations:  Anything by Abraham-Hicks, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey, Soul Love and Creating Money by Sanaya Roman.

Some soul love food for thought and great reads to begin your summer!

Lots of Love,


What Do You Mean By “Soul Mate?”

When I started my coaching business and this blog I did realize that the term soul mate might be troubling for some people as it can have so many different connotations – some good and some bad.  The entertainment industry paints a Romeo and Juliet-esque view of soul mates as being something like eyes locking across a room, there’s a spark and wham, that’s it!  There’s the person you’re stuck with until the movie ends or you both die by poisoning.   (That’s not being deliberate about attracting your soul mate, by the way.)

Others don’t believe that there’s one soul mate for each person, but rather that we have many soul mates in different types of relationships that come into our lives to help our souls grow in some way.  So the challenge there is how to know who the ONE is when there are so many potential soul mates.

Or the opposite end of the spectrum is that there aren’t soul mates at all.  Or just believing it’s impossible that there’s one perfect partner out there for us and that we could manage to meet him or her in this lifetime on a planet with over 7 billion souls.

I’m not saying any of those perspectives are invalid nor am I here to tell you what is true, because you decide what’s true – what you believe to be true will be what’s true for you.  But as a woman who is a deliberate creator and became intentional about attracting my soul mate into my life – I can tell you that not only is attracting your soul mate possible but it is your birth right to have the love you truly desire and that reflects the loving soul you are.


In my program the soul mate I refer to is specifically a romantic partnership that supports your highest self and your deepest desires for spiritual growth and expansion in this lifetime.  It’s a partnership based on deep commitment, equality, interdependence, honesty, truthfulness, spiritual oneness, and unconditional love.  Soul mates are by no means perfect people, but are growing together.  Your soul mate is the person your heart, when unblocked by limiting beliefs and negative patterns, truly desires to be with.  A soul mate relationship adds to your life force (chi or prana), giving you more energy to be, do and have what you came here for. 

You see, it actually becomes very easy to attract your soul mate when you are expressing your true self in love and living from that highest place your heart – and I’m proof!  (In a future post I’ll tell you the story about how I met my husband, no doubt we were divinely guided.)

My program and coaching is all about guiding you into alignment with your highest and best self and knowing love from that place.  When you reside in that higher vibration of love your partner, the right partner for you, will be drawn to you.  Just like Rumi said, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

For a free 30-minute clarity session to start your deliberate attraction process, email me at dinarobisoncoaching at gmail dot com.  Clarity alone can do wonders!

What do you think about the whole soul mate thing? 

Wishing you lots of joy in your journey while deliberate creating the life of your dreams!



Five Minutes a Day to Break Unhelpful Patterns in Love and Life

Have you ever just woken up one day to realize that your love relationships had a similar thread or pattern amongst them?  Maybe each person seemed different in the beginning, but as time went on and you got to know each other it’s almost like they were the same person wearing a different body?

One day, a while ago, that was me.  I was actually pretty embarrassed to realize that I, the strong and independent woman that I was, seemingly had no control over the person I was choosing (or not choosing) to be with.  It was at that time that I fully decided and committed to making the changes in myself that I needed to make in order to deliberately attract the man of my dreams and have the love I truly desired.

Up until that point for most of my life I had been acting and reacting with my default beliefs and desires, not with my inner wisdom.  So in order to get in touch with this wisdom I took up a daily meditation practice…well, again.  I had been an on and off meditator for years but for the first time was making it a daily priority as important as eating breakfast.  Every morning I would wake up and meditate anywhere from five to thirty minutes.  The amount of time wasn’t as important as the consistency of doing it every day.  Hey, it worked for Elizabeth Gilbert in Eat, Pray, Love, and I’m a yoga instructor for goodness sake – the least I should be doing is meditation! 694865_96636417

You probably can guess what happened…  I became generally calmer, didn’t get bothered by little things, and felt more confident and peaceful and in control of my life just to name a few benefits.  But most importantly I began to take actions based on my highest wisdom and self.  It seemed like life, or God, or the Universe was cooperating for my highest good.  I saw the blessing in my prior heartbreaks, didn’t get tempted to jump into anything too quickly with someone who might not be perfect for me, and I just had the faith that my soul mate was on his way to me.

Be deliberate about your life.  Go for it.  Five minutes.

Daily meditation, for any amount of time, is the first step to being a deliberate creator in your love life (and whole life).  It breaks the patterns, it gets you out of your head, it makes you aware of any limiting thoughts that are blocking love, it gives you back the power and intuition to decide what is for your highest and greatest good, and puts you in touch with what your soul truly desires for your life.

If you need any more reasons you can read all about 100 benefits of meditation here. 

To start:

1)    Find a quiet place where you can sit up comfortably.

2)    Close your eyes and take some slow, deep breaths.

3)    Breathe naturally and allow your focus to go entirely onto your breathing.

4)    If your mind wanders, no big deal, just bring it back to your breathing.

5)    Continue this until you feel pretty comfortable in the silence, then you can let go of the focus on the breath and just be in that good feeling place for as long as you want.

6)    That’s all – when you feel complete with it consciously open your eyes and ride that feeling in to the rest of your day.

You can use different meditations for all kinds of purposes, adding visualizations and affirmations, depending on your intention and desire (like breathing in “I receive love” and breathing out “I give love” to expand your ability to give and receive love) – but as a deliberate creator you will benefit greatly even from just sitting in silence for some time everyday.

My program has several guided meditations to help you on your journey to attracting soul love.  If you’d like to know more about my Deliberate Attraction sessions and program, please visit this page. 

I hope you find your daily meditation very helpful, please let me know how it’s benefiting you!

Love and Peace,


Happy Mother’s Day

Thank you to mothers and anyone embodying that divine, feminine energy of nurturing, unconditional love all over the planet.  You are all truly bringing light into this world with every loving thought, word and deed.  I’m so grateful to be alive in this time to experience it.

Happy Mother’s Day and many blessings to you all!

Love and Hugs,